I just learned about my husband affair a year ago. I was devastated as I love him very much and still is. After talking out with him, he hope I could accommodate to him having another love. I was at a loss but finally agreed.
From that day onwards, I have been feeling down and cry myself to sleep every now and then. Recently, I just found out that he was overseas with his lover when I confronted him, I did not give him a chance to explain further as I couldn’t bear the thoughts of them being together.
I guess the problem lies with me because I know I told him I could accommodate but I just cannot bring myself to accept the fact that he loves another woman. These days is a torture, I just keep crying and crying and am at a loss now.
Please give me some advice.
Hi Lonely Soul
Thanks for your mail and sorry to hear of your predicament.
It must be tortuous sharing your husband with another woman and it is also unfair. The marriage relationship is meant solely for one another and any third party is considered a intruder however way you place it.
Its good to have a straight talk with your hubby and if he chose the other party you may have to seek a legal end to the relationship so you can still retain your sanity and esteem.
However, if you still love him dearly suggest a time to seek out a marital counsellor to patch things up together over a period of time.
Infidelity is one of the main reason why couples split and it also suggests something is wrong with the marriage for a while.
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