I chanced upon your site when I am researching on divorce. I will like to seek any legal advice, if possible.
My husband and I were married for many years, with two kids.
Recently, I discovered smses detailing him making bookings for prostitutes. As I could not send the messages directly to my HP, I took photos of the smses.
Subsequently, I watsapp the images to my hub to confront him, he replied with “What do you want?”
In addition, we have been sleeping separately (in different rooms) in the same house since few years ago.
I consulted a lawyer. He said that I can file based on unreasonable association with P and 3-year separation. And, according to him, the evidences are quite strong as he did not deny, and that is considered “silent admission”. Now, some people are telling me otherwise, and that the evidence may not be acceptable. And if that is the case, basing on the 3-year separation, I will not be able to file if my hub does not consent, and I need wait for another year.
I’ve tried talking to my hub regarding the divorce. There is no love between us but he is refusing to talk at all. Hence, I am not sure if he will likely to agree or contest.
Based on the above, can you offer me any advice? Thank you!
Thanks for your mail and sorry to hear of your predicament.
I am not a lawyer but just a counsellor. Its best you approach a lawyer for legal matters as we may advise you wrongly.
If you don’t have one we can recommend one to you.
From what I know, social media evidences for divorce based on adultery is difficult to prove in court and they required a professional qualified PI report which can cost a strong 4-figure sum.
Using the unreasonable-behaviour reason to file for divorce is easier and more straight forward than based on adultery cause as this requires stronger reason to prove.
However, can I suggest that you try counselling first together with your husband if possible before jumping on the divorce path.
Divorce not only affects our own well being but that of our children too.
Let me know if this is possible so we can refer you to a marital counsellor.
Take care and stay strong.