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Woman in transition trying to recover and move on »
Dear Gilbert, I hope you had happy holidays and Happy 2012 to you :) Im sorry - its been so long since my last correspondence. A [...]
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Divorced woman felt betrayed in a failed rebound relationship »
Dear Gilbert, I am really glad to see your blog. I m a divorcee with 2 kids. I initiated the [...]
“The truth is, I harboured thoughts of suicide whenever »
Hi Gilbert, I found your website earlier on. I know you are not able to help, but anyway [...]
Two’s company, three’s hard work »
From Sunday Life Everything seems perfect: Mum, Dad, new baby. But then the myths of parenthood begin [...]
Children of divorce
The Spiral Process of Recovery »
INTRODUCTION: Children and adults recover from the divorce experience in different ways. The recovery process for the adult is dominated by the [Read More]
Single Parenting
Single Parenting »
Single Parenting By Nombini Kutta-Mathye Single parenting is definitely on the [...]
Greater Than or Less Than? Dating as a »
I'm not dating anyone right now. More often than not in my life, there's been someone. [...]
Good Men Step In To Become Dads »
By Peter Ehrlich Special to Single Dad Life My single mother collected bottles on [...]
Recovery After Divorce
Divorce Recovery – 7 Tips On »
By Jerald Young, Ph.D. Recovery from divorce is hard. The good news is YOU CAN DO IT. In fact, with some focused effort and a little help, you can recover from divorce faster than you ever thought possible. Making a successful recovery from divorce requires both [Read More]
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Reader's mail
Legal questions from man divorcing his Malaysian wife
Today , I went to my wife's place to see my kids, I thought I can see my wife and hope that we can have a heart to heart talk, but I was disappointed and sad because she doesn't want to see me. Her Mum told me that she is insisting on having a divorce and asked me to prepare the legal letter from my side... Ken: I did nothing wrong for [...]
Married woman feeling tortured after husband walked out
Hi Gilbert, I saw your email addresses on steadymarriages.com and I decided to email right away because I’m having a very difficult time coping with the fact that my husband left me 2 weeks ago, He told me in person that he will be filing divorce papers and has no intention to reconcile our marriage. I feel truly devastated, alone and [...]
Divorced woman seeking advice on maintenance issue
Hi Gilbert,I would like to have some advice regarding my case. I am with my ex husband since year 2003 and we were married in 2007. We just had a ROM ceremony and that is it. Over the years he had never suggested a customary wedding, nor plan to go for our wedding photography shoot. Seriously my family and friends weren't supportive over [...]
Divorce, broke, jobless and depressed…
Hi Gilbert, I came across your steadymarriages blog by accident and was relieved to find something like that. Was hoping if you can offer me some advice. Sorry in advance if this email is too long-winded. I was divorced with my ex-wife in 2008. At that point I was already in financial difficulty due to poor financial management and high [...]
Separated Woman Seeking Legal Advice On Daughter’s Shared Access
Hi Gilbert, Your website has been most informative. I've a question regarding interim custody. Currently separated from my husband and I've interim custody of our 1-year-old girl, with him having access on Saturday and Sunday,10am to 8pm, no overnight access. Especially if I were to return to work in future, I hardly would have time with [...]
Online counselling session with a client going through marital problem
At least 30% of our clients preferred online counseling and today we have reproduced, with permission, one of such transcript session here. We receive an average of ten such requests weekly on a range of issues plaguing the stress-filled modern living population. Sally (not her real name) has requested for counseling on her [...]
Unhappy wife contemplating divorce with indifferent husband
We have been married for 17 years. We are quite different in family and educational background - just like East and West. Unfortunately, the fusion of East and West didn’t work well for the last 3 over years. I sort of knew when we were courting that maybe I shouldn’t marry him but I guessed love blinded me, in addition he told me that I [...]
Man with maintenance default of $20, 900: “Should I die or go to jail?”
Hi Gilbert, My ex wife is a PRC and we were married for less than 4 years before the marriage ran aground. The end of the marriage also was the start of a financial nightmare for me. Let me explain… Few years back, my ex-wife’s father invested in a local business here. I helped to run the business and took a loan from the [...]
Man Unsure If He is Baby’s Biological Father
Good day to you Gilbert. I needed some advice from you urgently. I used to have a local female friend and we entered into a sexual relationship. Ours was not a boyfriend girlfriend type of relationship and we both agreed that what we have done sexually is a mutual affair. We have never questioned each other’s private lives [...]










































