Top 10 cruel things women do to men (Asiaone 15 Dec)

Number of View: 271 Top 10 cruel things women do to men       Call it self-protection or playing the cards right, women have done some nasty things to men to maintain the upper hand and stay in the dating game. Fox News has compiled a list of top 10 cruel things that women do to men and how they toy with their emotions or ego. 10. Women don’t pick up the phone Men feel good about themselves when they manage to attain a girls’ phone number. However, women don’t give it to men that easy afterall. According to Fox News, they often give men a fake number or don’t pick up their calls. 9. Use men for free drinks Fox News also suggested that there are women who go out never planning to spend any of their own money on drinks at the bar or club. Instead, they deploy their feminine ruses to convince guys to shell out for their night’s libations. While some of them might begin to get to know him, Fox News states that the cruel and heartless ones will take that drink, flirt a little and move on. 8. Use men as placeholders Some …

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What is the right mix in a marriage?

Number of View: 230 What is the right mix in a marriage? Written by: Gilbert Goh In our busyness, we all failed to spend enough time together with our partner often with accompanying complications. A good marriage has all the ingredients of a balanced lifestyle but how many of us have the correct mix here? We often place emphasis to things that matter to us as an individual rather than as a couple and this is probably one of the main reason when the relationships goes into a rut. This is especially so when we have our kids and much of our time at home is focused on raising our own children often neglecting our partners in the process. We only have a few hours left after work and most people, especially working mothers, will want to spent their precious time with their young children. I don’t really know why but women tend to have this hormonal-charged maternity instinct to fully focus on their children unlike that of men. We will explore more on this topic in another chapter as it is an important difference on how women and men view their offspring. Unless, men and women understand this huge …

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Caring job can sour a happy marriage

Number of View: 188 World Home > World > Story Dec 7, 2009 Caring job can sour a happy marriage Study shows those in caring professions at high risk of break-ups   LONDON: Love and lots of patience may be the key to a successful marriage – but being a dentist or pharmacist helps too, said a new research which correlates occupations with divorce and separation rates. The study, to be published in the Journal of Police and Criminal Psychology, reveals that people employed in extrovert and stressful jobs are highly likely to divorce, reported the Observer newspaper. But surprisingly, those who work in the caring professions – nurses, psychiatrists and those who help the elderly and disabled – are equally at risk. The study was conducted by Dr Michael Aamodt, an industrial psychologist at the Virginia-based Radford University, who invented a formula to work out the likelihood of success of a marriage based on the occupation of one of the partners. According to his findings, these are the top five ‘high-risk’ groups and the chances of them getting a divorce: Dancers and choreographers: 43 per cent   Bartenders: 38 per cent   Massage therapists: 38 per cent   Nursing, psychiatric and home …

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Staying in Touch in 2010 (Marsvenusliving)

Number of View: 272Staying in Touch in 2010 December 1, 2009 Technology has changed the way we communicate so dramatically and in such a short period of time that every now and then we have to pause, catch our collective breaths, and take notice of where we are moving as a society. A recent survey released by the Pew Internet & American Life Project, found that 25 percent of the survey respondents felt that their family today is closer than their family when they were growing up, thanks to the use of the Internet and cell phones. Only 11 percent felt technology had made them less close. Here’s just one example of how new technology is bringing us closer: Seventy percent of couples who both own cell phones contact each other once a day or more, compared to 54 percent of couples who have only one or no cell phones. Similarly, 42 percent of parents contact their children daily via cell phone compared to 35 percent who do so using a land line. And that doesn’t cover those little instant texts that allow us to ask a quick question in less than a minute and represents a minimal intrusion on the …

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Myths About Asian Marriages

Number of View: 232 Myths About Asian Marriages Written by: Gilbert Goh When I first got married, I went in almost eyes widely shut without any clue what to expect, except  that,  from  now I have to live with someone whom I only knew for two years before  for the rest of my life. The marital dust soon settled after our whirlwind wedding and on the first night as a newly wed couple, I actually fall off my king-size bed when I rolled over!  My wife woke up in shock but laughed at me when she discovered that I have landed on the floor. Talk about a traumatic first night out as a married person (besides the initial night of marital sex of course haha). You see for many years, I shared a room with my brother in our parents’ HDB 3-room flat and we all slept on mattresses. You can roll all over without feeling the gravity at all.  A 3-foot bed is definitelyanother sleeping device at all.  The first sign of trouble soon arrived to spoil my idealism of a fairy tale wedding  when I began to discover that my wife was the quiet sort who prefers knitting …

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Higher marital break up – our modern society to be blamed? (Pt 2)

Number of View: 213 Written by: Gilbert Goh Personal Experience  Having being married for 16 years and constantly finding ways to enhance our marriage despite the regular ups and downs, I have decided to write this book to help people to enhance their marriage. I will include some of my own personal struggles and hope that you can identify with them. Mine is not a perfect marriage and can never be. I hope that we can learn from one another here.  Don’t get me wrong – I am no guru in this subject. In fact, I have struggled in my marriage for many years and we have being through a very rough patchy journey together like many other normal marriages. Careers, children and differences have all contributed to a deep wedge at the relationship. How we react to changes in our partners is also crucial to our marital wellbeing.  We marry someone whom we thought  is our ideal partner but the person may change along the years. How we react to such changes is also important as it may mean a psychological acceptance or rejection of our soul mate. Personally, I have this problem as I find it difficult to …

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What is it with Men and Commitment, Anyway? (Smart Marriages)

Number of View: 483What is it with Men and Commitment, Anyway? Scott M. Stanley, PhDUniversity of Denver Citation:  Stanley, S. M. (2002, July).  What is it with Men and Commitment, Anyway?Keynote address to the 6th Annual Smart Marriages Conference.  Washington D. C. This paper was given as a keynote address to the 2002 Annual Smart Marriages Conference in Washington D. C. The referencing has been updated as of November, 2004 to reflect works that were in press or under review that have been published since the time of the address. The paper reflects the structure of my thought and comments in the address, though, as a paper, it has the luxury of greater detail on a number of key points compared to the address.  The flow is also slightly different from the address so as to improve readability of the paper.  The recorded talk (#752-P6) is available on audio or video through Playback Now at 800-241-785 or at http://www.playbacknow.com/cmfce.  The footnotes in this paper contain references to findings in research that are consistent with, or further bolster, the points being made but that were not available to me at the time of the address or that I thought would be …

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Higher Marital Break up – Our Modern Society To Be Blamed? (Pt 1)

Number of View: 329 Written by: Gilbert Goh One in three marriages break up in our country and the situation does not look like it’s going to improve. Many friends around me have also thrown in the marital towel and are on their own now licking their wounds.  Some have ended their marriages lasting  more than ten years of relationship. So what happened here?  Many people have suggested to me that keeping a marriage going on is like running a marathon. You have to put in a lot of effort and energy to maintain the relationship and like in a marathon, many feel like giving up half way as it is a tiring and painful journey. Having ran several marathons before, I agreed with their views.  It is not difficult to find the reasons for our society’s dismal divorce rate which has accelerated past the roof during the past few years. In fact, the modern highly-esteemed lifestyle of most developed countries  has directly contributed to the demise of our marriages.  Our fast paced materialistic society and the constant focus on acquiring wealth have eroded the priority placed on relationship building. Couples belonging to the modern nuclear family unit spend more …

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Introduction To Steady Marriages

Number of View: 315 I started this blogsite with the intention to provide a platform for people in difficult marriages to network and hopefully  find possible esources to iron out their differences with their spouses. One in three marriages in Singapore will eventually break up and at least 7000 families will end their relationship with each other yearly. Counting at least each family has one child each and we are looking at 21,000 people facing life without the warmth of a happy family each year. People growing up in dysfunctional families face issues of various kinds. For children, the impact is greater when their idealistic dream of a happy family is fatally dashed once their parents decide to go their separate ways.  It is well documented that children growing up in dysfunctional families often turn into juvenile delinquents as they face the challenge of growing up in a single-parent family setting. Many internalize their frustrations and have deep seated self esteem issues. All this affect their ability to fully realise their potential while they are gtowing up. Some even experience similar marital difficulties not unlike what their parents have encountered. Enough of all the negative news here. This site hopes to accomplish the …

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