I am in the final stage of my divorce, about a week away from my decree absolute.
We have two children, a girl nine and a boy six. Both are staying with their mother at the grandmother’s apartment whilst I stay elsewhere.
I am Swiss and my ex wife is a Singaporean Malay. In mediation we agreed on joint custody and joint care and control.
Now the kids’ mum suddenly dropped a bombshell that she is starting a job as a airline stewardess and she will be working away from home for most of the time.
I am engaging my lawyer now to get full custody of the children because of this material change in circumstances.
In the past one year, my ex wife has changed jobs three times. In the past three months, she also spent most of the week at her boyfriend’s place and left the children with the grandmother.
She made arrangements for outings with the children on some weekends only to cancel them at the last minute. Since February I have the children every weekend staying at my place, every Wednesday I take them out for dinner. I pay all the expenses for the children and give their mother $700 a month for maintenance.
Now that the mother is working away I want the children to live with me but their grandmother is interfering and persuading them not to live at my place. This I won’t tolerate. I am their father and I want to have the children rather than have them brought up by the mother. I have the means and I am very capable of looking after my own children. We have common interests and the children enjoy spending time with me. We all love nature.
My daughter is very good at school and she is top of the class but lately since her mother didn’t sleep there, she missed a lot of classes because no one wakes her up in the morning. The grandmother’s attitude towards missing school is… never mind, it’s ok.
I don’t want my daughter to slip up at school, she enjoys school but once she falls behind and has to do extra work to catch up, this may change.
So, I decided to take control of the situation and try to gain full custody of my kids. It’s going to be difficult but I have to manage. I think I can do with as much help as I can get!
Stephen (not his real name)
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Thanks & Warmest Regards,