Gender Differences and Why They Don’t Matter So Much

Number of View: 222 Gender Differences and Why They Don’t Matter So Much Published by Harriet Hall under Evolution,General,History Comments: 209 Several incidents have recently created divisions within the skeptical community.  The latest one was over a casual comment Michael Shermer made in an online talk show. He was asked why the gender split in atheism was not 50/50, “as it should be.” He said he thought it probably was 50/50, and suggested that the perception of unequal numbers might be because attending and speaking at atheist conferences was more of “a guy thing.” They might have asked him to explain what he meant. They didn’t. He didn’t mean to say it was encoded in the male DNA. He was simply recognizing a reality of our society: male/female interests and behavior tend to differ due to all sorts of cultural influences. Among other things, women might find it more difficult to attend meetings because of lower incomes and the need to arrange for babysitters. Watching sports on TV with other guys and beer is a guy thing too, but not because it’s hardwired into the male brain. It’s a guy thing because of customs and attitudes in our society.  And …

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10 Big Differences Between Men’s and Women’s Brains

Number of View: 321 10 Big Differences Between Men’s and Women’s Brains Jun 16th, 2009 By Amber Hensley The differences between women and men are not only well-documented, but frequently at the heart of jokes, anecdotes, and good-natured (and not so good-natured) ribbing. Experts have discovered that there are actually differences in the way women’s and men’s brains are structured and in the way they react to events and stimuli. So the next time your wife, boyfriend, or parent starts telling you how you should have done something differently, then refer back to these big differences between men’s and women’s brains. Human relationships. Women tend to communicate more effectively than men, focusing on how to create a solution that works for the group, talking through issues, and utilizes non-verbal cues such as tone, emotion, and empathy whereas men tend to be more task-oriented, less talkative, and more isolated. Men have a more difficult time understanding emotions that are not explicitly verbalized, while women tend to intuit emotions and emotional cues. These differences explain why men and women sometimes have difficulty communicating and why men-to-men friendships look different from friendships among women. Left brain vs. both hemispheres. Men tend to process …

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Differences Between Men and Women in Relationships

Number of View: 320 Differences Between Men and Women in Relationships: “He Said / She Said” – by KissMeGoodnight.com         The term, “He said/she said” is often heard in the unfortunate case of rape. In this situation the term applies to the fact that when there is little factual evidence on which to base a decision the jury is left trying to determine who’s story they believe and the case becomes one of her word against his. These cases perhaps illustrate the problems regarding he said/she said that couples are faced with in a relationship. Beyond the fact that in a rape case one or both of the parties may not be telling the truth, exists the underlying problem that men and women think and process information differently. The differences between men and women include differences in thought process, sensitivity, memory, and communication. A successful relationship is one that recognizes the difference between men and women and is able to get beyond the he said/she said scenarios. Men and women have a different thought process when it comes to solving problems. While both sexes are capable of solving problems equally well the thought process involved in coming to a resolution varies …

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The romance roundabout

Number of View: 410  The romance roundabout By Denise Cullen From: The Sunday Telegraph August 22, 2010 12:12AM ON-again, off-again relationships come with a heavy emotional toll, but there is a way to break the destructive cycle. Boomerang relationships, where a couple breaks up, then makes up, then breaks up again, are very common for both men and women. More than 60 per cent of adults have been on the on-again, off-again relationship roundabout at some point, says University of Texas professor Rene Dailey, who has written about the dynamic in publications including the Journal Of Social Psychology And Personal Relationships. About 40 per cent say that their current or most recent relationship has, or had, an on-off nature, and many have gone through the cycle with the same person three or more times. While popular culture insists there is something romantic about star-crossed lovers, this on-off pattern does exact an emotional toll. Start of sidebar. Skip to end of sidebar. .End of sidebar. Return to start of sidebar. Dailey’s research reveals that, compared with relationships that do not break up and renew, on-off partners report more unresolved conflict and more criticisms, verbal attacks and other forms of aggressive communication. …

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Sex And Divorce

Number of View: 233 Heart & Mind:  Taking Control    Jun 2, 2010 SEX AND DIVORCE By Angel La LiberteCoping with divorce and the prospect of new sexual relationships can be emotionally challenging, to say the least. Here’s a look at some of the pitfalls and opportunities you’ll encounter as you rebuild your sex life. When it comes to divorce and new relationships, there’s a memorable line from the 1989 Rob Reiner film, When Harry Met Sally. Soon-to-be-married Marie and Jess have each just gotten off the phone from consoling their single friends, Harry and Sally, who are suffering the tremors of emotional uncertainty brought on by the aftermath of their first sexual encounter together. Afterward, Marie turns to Jess and pleads: “Please tell me I will never have to be out there again!” That we understand this sentiment should come as no surprise. When married, our sexual routine was a safe bet. We either had sex or we didn’t. We were familiar with our partner’s moves, and we knew what was expected of us. Whatever else it may have been, it was safe. And our needs were — to varying extents, depending on the partnership — being met. After a …

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Men, Women and Marriage: The Biggest Midlife Crisis (middleage.org)

Number of View: 473 A LETTER RECEIVED   I recently received this letter from a visitor to the site. It’s similar to many I receive, but it does an especially good job of raising questions, providing more examples than most. The letter has been edited to remove any details identifying the individual who wrote to protect her privacy, but in this in no way detracts from the letter’s basic points. “It seems the men in my overall family take flight from their marriages, have affairs, think completely differently from what they did a few years earlier. For example, (1) my dad, good father, decent husband……turned 55 and had continuous long-lasting affairs. (Mom knew about it. but tolerated it and wouldn’t divorce him and he wouldn’t leave her); (2) my cousin – a religious man, turned 51, walked in one day and said he was leaving my aunt for another woman. No notice, no signs, just BAM!; (3) my brother-in-law did the same thing, though he and his wife had the ‘perfect’ marriage of 32 years. He turned 57, divorcing my sister AND his family, even his dog. “My husband has just turned 47. If he turns on and tunes out like …

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9 Deadly Words Used By A Woman (Best Article)

Number of View: 559 Posted: 30 Apr 2010 11:10 AM PDT 1) Fine   This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up. 2) Five Minutes   If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house. 3) Nothing   This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine. 4) Go Ahead   This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It! 5) Loud Sigh   This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.) 6) That’s Okay   This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding …

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1,000 Things You Don’t Know About Women (The Best Article)

Number of View: 5661,000 Things You Don’t Know About Women Posted: 22 Apr 2010 01:03 PM PDT Written by esquire We asked the women in our lives to share their secrets about sex, relationships, and what we’ve been doing wrong (and right) all these years. Check out the first 100 responses below, a bunch more in Esquire’s all-new issue devoted to women, and yet more advice right here every week. No. 306: Don’t pretend we don’t tell you when something’s wrong. Come on now. Increased chocolate intake. Foot tapping. Crossed arms. Tears during a Hallmark commercial. We’ve said all we need to. Tell us we look even skinnier than usual. And then get us a glass of Sancerre. —Kirsten Hall, 35, New York No. 79: We love to hear we are beautiful. Breaking it down into specifics is even better. —Christine Siltanen, 28, Portland, Oregon No. 10: Anything but roses. Think about it. We’ve mentioned our favorite flower more than once. If you can’t remember, go with a lily. —Rhiannon Falzone, 25, Chicago No. 512: We’re not always aware of our breasts. If we happen to brush up against you, we’re not necessarily coming on to you. Sometimes we are. …

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Support for men (Today 30 Mar)

Number of View: 308 Support for men Posted at 9:30 pm under Uncategorized Strong and silent – two words one may use to describe the stereotypical man. But one question that came up as I worked on a story on the possibility of men being able to claim spousal maintenance after a divorce: are men getting enough emotional support after a divorce? Legislation aside, perhaps more can be done now to find ways that would make it easier for men to seek out the necessary help? For instance, Fei Yue Family Service Centre runs a programme for divorcees, or those going through a separation. So far, they’ve managed to run two rounds for women, reaching about 30 women. In contrast, they couldn’t even form one session from the interested men – who numbered less than 10.. Mrs Lee explains, “I believe that both genders do have the (same) needs. But women may feel more comfortable talking about emotional stuff. It may not be so easy for men.” She believes there needs to be more “creative” ways to encourage men to seek support, say, through a fishing expedition. It’s less intimate, and allows men the chance to “do things and talk”. …

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Men more likely to commit suicide after divorce, study finds (CNN.com)

Number of View: 1435     By Sarah Yang (WebMD) — Men seeking a good reason to salvage their marriages may want to consider this: A new study finds that divorced and separated men are two and a half times more likely to commit suicide than married men. Divorce, however, doesn’t seem to lead more women to commit suicide — a surprising finding considering the popular wisdom that women suffer more than men after a divorce, according to the study, published this week in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health. “We now need to look at the possibility that divorce negatively affects men, too,” said study author Augustine Kposowa, Ph.D., an associate professor of sociology at the University of California at Riverside. Women are set back financially, he said, but “the man does not emerge unscathed.”   The difference, he theorized, lies in how men and women form social bonds. Men make friends with whom they can hang out, and women make friends with whom they can share their feelings. “Women are socialized to have more friends, deeper friendships, and so on. Men are socialized differently, to be macho, and do not have much deeper friendships. So when a …

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