Newly-married wife stressed over husband’s cancer illness

Number of View: 637 Dear Gilbert My husband and I are turning 30 this year. Unfortunately, we’ve been married only since last July and are already considering divorce. I’m unsure if we’re eligible to file for a divorce but here’s the gist of our story and I seek and would greatly appreciate your invaluable advice. It hasn’t been easy. He was diagnosed with cancer just about 2 weeks into our marriage. Albeit shocking, I willingly accepted our sudden twist of fate and took on the role of his primary caregiver. I ultimately left my job just to care for him …

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Woman involved in a violent relationship ending her marriage

Number of View: 683 We fought constantly about his filth and untidyness and the division of household chores, among other issues. He had emotionally vacated the marriage and I also discovered he was involved with his colleague, to whom he would confide his woes (including calling me names) and secretly date, plus show care, assistance and concern towards. On one occasion when we were fighting about his cheating, he physically hurt me: flipped me off the bed with such force that I somersaulted and landed oddly on my back on the floor, restrained my hands when I tried to call …

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Polo patient seeking support over abusive relationship by husband from India

Number of View: 278 Peace be upon you Mr Goh, I am Siti (name changed) and a polio patient. I am writing to you as I need guidance and support to walk away from an abusive relationship for my 2 teenage kids whose studies are very affected by it. I got married to a man from India, not knowing that he is already married there with 2 children. His marital status in India remains unchanged. He has however, been very physically abusive towards me when I refused to apply for PR for his India relatives and they in turn have …

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Woman facing domestic violence from Japanese husband

Number of View: 423 Hi Gilbert, I’ve been married about 3 years more.  My husband is a very hot temper person.  He can  get very angry  for a very small matter eg. he will blow up when I  asked him to catch a cockroach at our house.   My husband  is a Japanese –  I understand that their culture requires wives to obediently  listen to their husbands. I think he’s also over confident by nature  and tend to look down on  others.  He always insulted me by saying that I am slow, stupid, useless, lousy and hopeless.   I felt hurt, I don’t agree with …

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How can he call himself a man?

Number of View: 371 Wed, May 19, 2010 The New Paper How can he call himself a man? by Chong Shin Yen   HER pain is his shame. That is small consolation for her public bashing in Geylang, but she is thankful that the man who hit her has been exposed for the bully that he is. Miss Zheng Yan is the woman who was gongfu-kicked in the belly by her towering ex-lover.  He is the man whose brutish behaviour was captured in pictures and splashed across newspapers. Now Miss Zheng, 25, wants to thank the witness who took the …

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Battered wife wants her marriage annulled (Asiaone 14 Apr)

Number of View: 391 Wed, Apr 14, 2010 Philippine Daily Inquirer/ ANN Battered wife wants her marriage annulled     DEAR EMILY, My husband and I were childhood sweethearts and went steady for 11 years before we decided to get married. We have been married 18 years now. Our marriage is a mess. We have separate beds and lead separate lives. It hurts that we ended up this way. I was a battered wife. Then when I was about to walk out, he had an anxiety-panic attack and I thought he was dying. He confessed about his extra-marital affairs and …

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Can physically violent relationships be healed? (Smart Marriages)

Number of View: 513 CAN PHYSICALLY VIOLENT RELATIONSHIPS BE HEALED? July 29, 1998   By Mike McManus   WASHINGTON — Last summer there was a strange demonstration at the Mall. Women carried 1,500 life-sized, blood-red wooden figures of women between the Capitol and the Washington Monument, behind mournful bagpipes. Each figure represented a woman who was killed by a physically abusive partner in 1997. Her story was typed out and pinned to each figure.   The demonstration was staged by `The Silent Witness National Initiative,’ organized by Janet Hagberg of Minneapolis-St. Paul. ”Our goal is to eliminate domestic violence,” she …

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