Mother with two kids contemplating divorce in a loveless sexless marriage

Number of View: 507Dear Gilbert, I came across your website once searching for advice online for divorce procedures. I would like some advice from you on this before I formally engage a lawyer to take up the case. I would like to provide some background on my marriage. I know my husband for about 14 years. We got marriedĀ  and have 2 girls. We are each other’s first boy/girlfriend, and thus no prior relationship before that. There are naturally a lot of differences in a relationship and I thought it will all worked out eventually as we have stayed on in the relationship for 7 years before we got married, but it was not like that. My husband is a guy who is totally not romantic and I have come to terms with that. We have agreed that we will not celebrate Valentines, Christmas, anniversaries etc, but only each other’s birthday, but it has become so bad that he brought me to hawker centre for dinnerĀ and buy me a weighing scale as birthday present this year. This may sound nitty gritty, but it just shows how far apart our expectations are. We are also in a sexless marriage. I got …

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Divorced father facing homelessness and turning suicidal

Number of View: 756 Dear Sir, I am writing to you as I have no one else to turn to and neither the HDB nor Family Court is willing to hear me out. I’ve been divorced from my estranged wife and I’ve been rendered homeless since as HDB repeatedly refuses to give me a queue number for their BTO projects saying that my son and I do not form a “proper” family nucleus. In the meantime, the courts have awarded 75% of our matrimonial home to my ex-wife even though I’ve produced proof of her adultery as well as custody of our children to the immoral woman. Hence, I’ve effectively lost faith in our judicial system as it is merely the playground of the rich and influential. She has abused protection orders several times but always never fail to get away with a “slap on the wrist”. An RC member who saw my son sleeping on a couch and myself on the floor together with my dementia mother and schizophrenic sister during “house visits”, they suggested that I see my MP but I’ve seen him 12 times to no avail and to his own ministry for that matter. I’m still …

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