Mum with young child feeling anxious and lost before a impending divorce

Number of View: 896 Hi Gilbert Thank you for your reply. Would it be ok if I asked a few more questions? At this moment, I still feel so lost and quite honestly scared. If I’m not a working mother right now, is there any chance my husband can last minute twist his words and not want to give me custody of my daughter? I seriously doubt he would be agreeable to me not refunding his CPF. How does it work if I do not refund his CPF upon a divorce? Does that mean, the CPF portion will auto be refunded to him only when I sell the flat next time? Regarding my child’s maintenance, he said he will give me a small lump sum which will be able to last me till she goes to primary 1. That’s only 2.5 years from now. I asked him then what happens after that? He answered, then he will think again. Can he actually do things this way? I feel my world already crumbling and now the future looks even more depressing. He has already move out from the house. You mentioned that I’m also entitled to maintenance. How does a court rule …

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Wife receives SMS text on divorce from husband and seeking assistance

Number of View: 848 My husband send me a SMS stating that he is preparing to file for a divorce with me and will inform me the date to go to the lawyer firm. I am agreeable to the divorce – would I need to engage a lawyer? Gilbert: Yes it will be advisable if you approach a lawyer for legal advice. You can also approach Legal Aid for the poor but your income must be below $1500/month and below. There is a one-off minimal payment of a few hundred if I am not wrong. Getting a lawyer will ensure that your legal right as a ex-spouse is protected during the divorce proceeding so you won’t lose out in any situation. I have 2 grown up children 20 and 18 and both are not working and there is no property – can I apply for maintenance? Gilbert: Yes I believe you can apply for maintenance for your grown-up children if they are not working subject to a age limit. However, there are cases whereby children who study in university still can get maintenance after age 21 years old – the legal age for adult. My gal and myself have been …

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Woman struggling with a divorce and seeking support group assistance

Number of View: 895 Hi Gilbert I am in the process of going through a divorce. As both my boys are taking the PSLE this year, my soon to be ex-hubby and me are aligned to keep it under wraps and not “announced” till they complete this critical phase of their educational journey. As such we are trying to still act as normal at home, in front of my kids and my parents. Nobody in my family knows at all. Hence it is quite a struggle for me especially when it’s a case of him committing adultery and he has some one else. I want to move on as I know he is no longer with me. And, I do not want to be in an emotional roller coaster wreck…which can’t be easily controlled at times. As I was surfing through looking for support group, I chanced upon your site. Definitely a great place to be in to be able to see, hear, read and listen to others. I am finding your data bank very helpful. Thank you for setting this up. Could you put me on the joining list for the 5-week support group program. Hoping it will help …

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