How to Recover from an Affair

Number of View: 346 How to Recover from an Affair Edited byDanine Manette and 14 others Realize that you are in shock. Initially, this is the phase where you are simply in disbelief. You cannot comprehend that your spouse has been physically or emotionally intimate with someone other than yourself; that your spouse was sneaking around and going out of his/her way to make time and seek out this person. And all the while you were oblivious… you begin piecing the puzzle together and you realize that so much of your reality was actually a lie. During this phase, you will probably feel like you’re in a dense fog while trying to make sense of what is going on and determine whether or not it is all just some sort of ‘bad dream’. Expect to experience some rage. You begin to realize that the situation is an actual reality and that it is not just some sort of ‘bad dream’. During this phase you may become physically ill and find that you are simply unable to get out of bed, go to work, or interact with others normally in your everyday world. The affair is all you are able to …

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Filipino married to a Singaporean and facing marital strife

Number of View: 1386 Hi Gilbert, A pleasant day to you. I am stuck in a situation right now, suffering depression. I am a Filipina, married to a Singaporean. I am holding a Long Term Visit Pass Plus under my husband’s name. We have two daughters. One was born out of marriage. Our relationship is not usual one. He is my Boss. We got married in 2012. He cheated on me so many times even before and during marriage. Caught him, leave him and forgive him. After two months of marriage, we were expecting for a second child. Still cheating on me while I was pregnant. I suffered a lot during that time. I gave birth while he was with someone else in some hotel. While I am taking care of my baby who was in ICU then saw a photo of him with a group of female FRIENDS in his restaurant. It was very suspicious. He always comes back late in the late morning. On that very day he came to the hospital in the afternoon (he didn’t come home the other night). He accused me of going crazy. I wanted to leave but he didn’t allow us. We …

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Woman feeling depressed sharing her husband with another woman

Number of View: 1399 Hi, I just learned about my husband affair a year ago. I was devastated as I love him very much and still is. After talking out with him, he hope I could accommodate to him having another love. I was at a loss but finally agreed. From that day onwards, I have been feeling down and cry myself to sleep every now and then. Recently, I just found out that he was overseas with his lover when I confronted him, I did not give him a chance to explain further as I couldn’t bear the thoughts of them being together. I guess the problem lies with me because I know I told him I could accommodate but I just cannot bring myself to accept the fact that he loves another woman. These days is a torture, I just keep crying and crying and am at a loss now. Please give me some advice. Lonely Soul ***** Hi Lonely Soul Thanks for your mail and sorry to hear of your predicament. It must be tortuous sharing your husband with another woman and it is also unfair. The marriage relationship is meant solely for one another and any …

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