Divorced man offering advice to someone going through marital dissolution

Number of View: 1206 After reading your letter two times, I still do not understand what actually you want from your wife. Instead, I read you wrote a lot about your wife’s behavior. It seems that you think your wife is more wrong than you. I can’t help but ask you, do you understand why your wife is behaving this way – eg commit suicide again and again? I can see that your wife is still very much loving you from her (you called it as “unreasonable”) behavior. She does not want a divorce. She does not want to lose you. You wrote that “2 human beings who have differing characters and the differences can’t be bridged anymore”. May I ask – how do you interact with your colleagues, friends, etc. Can you like interact the same way to your wife as you do to your friends, colleagues, etc? If you really care for your child, you really got to stop keep thinking those unhappy events with your wife, and keep digging out those bad statements made during arguments. Otherwise you are going nowhere but round and round. At the end of the day, nothing good will come out between …

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Newly-divorced woman picking up the pieces from a cheating husband

Number of View: 1235 Hi, I feel for you as I am in a similar situation. My husband has an emotional affair with a woman and I was devastated because we were happy together, which he also agreed with, and he also initially begged to return to normalcy. However, after one day, he told me he can’t settle down and wish to be free, and requested to separate. I was like you, lost, as he earns much more than I do and he was my source of happiness. Right now, I am trying my best to accept the fact and move on and it is NOT easy. It is super tough. The sadness comes in waves and I find myself battling it as it comes. Friends help a lot and family will never forsake you. Since he has given up, the marriage can’t work with one person trying. I suggest that you go to both families and make it clear. It does not matter if your family hates him after this. Reason being, if ever you two end up together again, him working hard to gain back their liking is only right. Learn to protect yourself and love yourself. Try …

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Wife feeling the hurt from a cheating husband and contemplating divorce

Number of View: 1432 Hi Gilbert I just learned husband was having affair since September 2016. He now wants a second chance but will not do any of the things I have asked him to do. Like counselling, anger management course and giving me access to his phone and PC. I have lost all trust in him. And do not trust him anymore. I cannot stop thinking of the images of the two of them. The scheming. The lies. The way he treated me. I’m totally devastated. My colleagues and family have been supportive. I know the decision lies with me. It’s so hard to deal with the pain. Vivian

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Husband in pain after discovery of affair from wife

Number of View: 1596  Hi Gilbert, I think I really need help. Now I’m feeling lost, shocked, depressed, confused, just so much in pain. A few days ago my wife confessed to me that she cheated with a colleague last year. I kind of suspected the whole of last year when she suddenly changed, I thought they were only hanging out but I didn’t expect it to go that far. I’m initiating divorce even though I still love her so much (it’s a mixed feeling of love and hate) as I’m not able to accept this reality. To be honest I do feel hopeless, my world is all gone…what can I do to get better? Thank you! Jack Editor’s note: We are extending our counselling support to the writer.

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