Divorced man offering advice to someone going through marital dissolution

Number of View: 1292 After reading your letter two times, I still do not understand what actually you want from your wife. Instead, I read you wrote a lot about your wife’s behavior. It seems that you think your wife is more wrong than you. I can’t help but ask you, do you understand why your wife is behaving this way – eg commit suicide again and again? I can see that your wife is still very much loving you from her (you called it as “unreasonable”) behavior. She does not want a divorce. She does not want to lose …

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Newly-divorced woman picking up the pieces from a cheating husband

Number of View: 1317 Hi, I feel for you as I am in a similar situation. My husband has an emotional affair with a woman and I was devastated because we were happy together, which he also agreed with, and he also initially begged to return to normalcy. However, after one day, he told me he can’t settle down and wish to be free, and requested to separate. I was like you, lost, as he earns much more than I do and he was my source of happiness. Right now, I am trying my best to accept the fact and …

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Wife feeling the hurt from a cheating husband and contemplating divorce

Number of View: 1536 Hi Gilbert I just learned husband was having affair since September 2016. He now wants a second chance but will not do any of the things I have asked him to do. Like counselling, anger management course and giving me access to his phone and PC. I have lost all trust in him. And do not trust him anymore. I cannot stop thinking of the images of the two of them. The scheming. The lies. The way he treated me. I’m totally devastated. My colleagues and family have been supportive. I know the decision lies with …

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Husband in pain after discovery of affair from wife

Number of View: 1694  Hi Gilbert, I think I really need help. Now I’m feeling lost, shocked, depressed, confused, just so much in pain. A few days ago my wife confessed to me that she cheated with a colleague last year. I kind of suspected the whole of last year when she suddenly changed, I thought they were only hanging out but I didn’t expect it to go that far. I’m initiating divorce even though I still love her so much (it’s a mixed feeling of love and hate) as I’m not able to accept this reality. To be honest …

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