Depressed father seeking advice on divorce proceedings

Number of View: 1206 Dear Gilbert, My wife and I have being living in the same house but slept separately for more than 5 years due to some reasons. My wife bought a new house (I was not aware at all) about 2 years ago. In late 2016, she shifted with the children to the new house. And not long after CNY, she called me that she wanted a divorce for some “reasons”.  I refused and tried to talk to her but she always turned aggressive on the phone and refused to talk and asked me to talk her lawyer. I don’t want a divorce as I still have feelings for her but she said she has no feeling for me anymore. That makes me very very sad.  A few days ago, my two teenage daughters texted me something about my wife’s behavior with a man.  This man has been very close with my wife since 5 years ago. As a matter of fact, it is because of him, I confronted my wife and she wanted a divorce then.  After the incident, we started to sleep separately and never talked. I blame myself for the high pride and I regretted …

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10 Signs He Is Interested in You

Number of View: 294 There he is, the man of your dreams. He’s sitting across from you at the coffee shop or standing at the opposite side of the bar. His eyes meet yours, a quick glance, and then it’s back to his drink. Was he giving you a signal? It’s not easy to decipher the mind of the modern male, but learning to decode what his nonverbal communication truly means is an invaluable asset in the game of love. So in order to be sure you’re reading him right, look out for the following 10 signs. Leaning into Love: If a guy is interested in you, you’ll find that his body will lean forward toward yours. This move can be either very subtle or extremely “in your face” (literally!). It’s his way of letting you know he’d like to get even closer. Once his interest is piqued, you’ll both find it hard to pull away! Keeping It Even Closer: A vital aspect of the physical nature of romance is reciprocity. Translation: meeting his advances with your own. This not only signals your own interest, but also serves to keep his. The Eyes Have It: We’ve all heard the proverb, …

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Dr Phil: Life after divorce

Number of View: 316 Life after Divorce Divorce is a major life change that can leave a person reeling. Suddenly being on your own to deal with issues such as money, children, career changes and downsizing the family home can seem overwhelming. Dr. Phil and Libby Gill, author of the book Traveling Hopefully: How to Lose Your Family Baggage and Jumpstart Your Life offer advice on how to begin to live life after divorce. If you’re having trouble letting go: • There is life after this marriage As hard as it is to believe right now, one day this marriage will just be something you did once. You’ll go on and you’ll have what you create. • Get out of denial Ask yourself: Do you really want this marriage, or are you hanging onto it out of fear? If being alone is a scarier thought than staying in a broken marriage, you’re letting fear make your decisions. Are you mourning the loss of what your marriage was, or what you thought marriage would be? • Don’t burn daylight Grieving doesn’t have a time frame on it, but life does. Whether you realize it or not, life is marching on. There …

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Wife enquiring on legal help to file for divorce based on adultery

Number of View: 1083 Hi Gilbert, I chanced upon your site when I am researching on divorce. I will like to seek any legal advice, if possible. My husband and I were married for many years, with two kids. Recently, I discovered smses detailing him making bookings for prostitutes. As I could not send the messages directly to my HP, I took photos of the smses. Subsequently, I watsapp the images to my hub to confront him, he replied with “What do you want?” In addition, we have been sleeping separately (in different rooms) in the same house since few years ago. I consulted a lawyer. He said that I can file based on unreasonable association with P and 3-year separation.  And, according to him, the evidences are quite strong as he did not deny, and that is considered “silent admission”. Now, some people are telling me otherwise, and that the evidence may not be acceptable. And if that is the case, basing on the 3-year  separation, I will not be able to file if my hub does not consent, and I need wait for another year. I’ve tried talking to my hub regarding the divorce. There is no love between us but he is refusing to talk …

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How To Heal the Pain of Divorce

Number of View: 673 By Cathy Meyer, About.com Guide Everyone who goes through a divorce experiences pain and grief, but some may be more profoundly affected. Some do not cope as well as others. Divorce can be a traumatic experience and healing from it takes time. There are some ways you can help yourself move through the healing process. Difficulty: Hard Time Required: Depends on the person Here’s How: Develop a support system. Find those friends and family who will be there to see you through the times when you need a shoulder to cry on or someone to listen. A clergyman or professional counselor may be helpful, as you can talk openly and confidentially. After a divorce, your true friends won’t be hard to recognize, because they will be willing to help you adjust to the changes. Seek a divorce recovery group in your community, so that you can interact with others going through the same emotions. Seek professional help if needed. Some people get stuck in the pain of divorce, and may experience depression, whether mild or severe. In that case, it is imperative to seek professional help, through your family doctor or a licensed therapist. Don’t try …

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