Newly-married woman facing eventual divorce from a cheating spouse

Number of View: 1763 Hi, Stumbled upon your website while searching for a support group where I can fit in, I know I don’t quite fit the category just yet. But my husband is having an affair and has repeatedly expressed his wish to leave/divorce me for her. Even though he has yet to file for divorce, I think there is unlikely anything I can do to avoid that eventuality. I am ashamed to face my family, I fear that I have put too much into my relationship all these years at the expense of my family. The failure of this relationship would just further disappoint them and it will cause them to view my husband negatively from hereon. I’m afraid that this may have a negative impact on our relationship if we were to ever continue. Things are just going too fast for me to keep up. I don’t want to give up but it feels hopeless no matter what I do. I’m not even sure if there is anything I can do. Perhaps I’m in denial, trying to fix things by myself. I know that just me feeling all this alone would not work, I know that perhaps …

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New family harassed by Malaysian ex-wife in bitter divorce

Number of View: 1143 Greetings to you sir. I came across your site Steady Marriages and find it very helpful and hopeful. We would like to ask for your kind advice quite urgently as we are struggling to free ourselves from this trouble that has been dragging and affecting our lives pretty badly since 2013. As we are still just beginning to stand on our own feet i.e getting a stable permanent job, we are still nowhere able to afford a lawyer to fight against a case of an ex-wife who is only a foreign PR and has custody of 2 kids (hiding one child in Malaysia since birth in 2012) and hogging on to matrimonial flat accumulating instalment repayments and interests since November 2014. Changed all locks to doors and gate knowing that having an active PPO against him would make him helpless to have access to his own flat. Smartly and discreetly refusing to cooperate with the selling procedure despite courts order to sell the matrimonial flat (which we do not understand why there is no given enforcement on any timeline). Same time it seems she is exploiting and taking advantage of Women’s Chapter to her advantage and …

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Recently-divorced mum worries about losing her HDB flat and feeling depressed

Number of View: 1461 Hi Gilbert, I am feeling so hopeless in my current situation. I have been diagnosed with major depression this year.  I need to go for regular blood test and on long-term medication for rheumatoid arthritis. I had a total thyroidectomy 2 years ago which I need to be on long term medication too after the surgery. I am a divorced woman with a 13-year-old son. Currently living in Punggol. My flat is still a joint tenancy with my ex-spouse. I have been trying to appeal for waiver of credit assessment for my HLE in order to take over the flat and I had went to look for MP to write in letter of appeal. But I still can’t get a HLE. Meaning I won’t be able to take over the flat and I and my son might be homeless soon if my ex-spouse takes legal action against me. I have included all my correspondence with HDB and my divorce certificate. I am also seeing a social worker in Punggol. Please I really need some help. Taking over the flat is my only dream now. I need to take over there flat if not I will be …

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Should You Change Your Sexual Habits for Your Partner?

Number of View: 331 Navigating the complexities of sex and relationships     by Amy Muise, Ph.D Should You Change Your Sexual Habits for Your Partner?       How sexual compromise can enhance relationship satisfaction Published on January 25, 2013 by Amy Muise, Ph.D in The Passion Paradox Over the course of a romantic relationship, there are bound to be times when your sexual interests diverge from your partner’s interests. Perhaps you enjoy having sex at night, but your partner prefers morning sex. Maybe you desire sex about once or twice a week, but your partner would like to have sex once or twice a day. Or maybe you fantasize about being tied to the bedpost, but bondage is not one of your partner’s sexual fantasies. Although a satisfying sex life is an important part of overall relationship happiness,1,2 sex can also be one of the most challenging issues to negotiate in a romantic relationship.2 Romantic partners may disagree on when to have sex, how often to have it, and what those sexual activities involve. If romantic partners have differing sexual interests, what can they do? A recent study suggests that, at times, changing sexual habits (or making sexual transformations) for a …

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