Jobless man made homeless and penniless by court’s decision after divorce

Number of View: 779First of all, tell us abit about yourself – how long were you married and any kids? Twenty one  years of marriage with 3 kids –  girl – 19 , boy – 16   and another boy – 14.  I am fifty years old now. I was a financial advisor  for the last 20 years before quitting recently to focus on my divorce case. I am also acting on my own defence  due to a lack of cash to get a lawyer.  What was the court’s decision for visitation rights after the divorce? The Court order allows me   ONE hour per week of visitation right even though there was no PPO or  any violence  at home. I am also not  allow to visit the children’s schools as  I was accused of beating  them up without any report or evidence of  records from police or MOE. I have a  criminal-free record so far. I have also submitted in my  affidavit two  volunteer parties  as parental guidances  for the children after the divorce   as both my ex- wife and myself work long hours and could not really care for them. Getting a miad is also not a good solution  but this was …

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How to tell if a guy likes you – Five signs he’s interested (articlesbase.com)

Number of View: 1237 How can you tell if a guy likes you or is interested? You noticed him when you were standing and talking with a friend. You think he noticed you, but maybe it was your imagination or just wishful thinking. He looked at you at about the same time you saw him. Your eyes met for just a few seconds, and then you looked away. When you looked back up, he was talking with some other people. Was he watching you as you mingled? Or were you making that up? How can you tell if a guy likes you? Why are guys so hard to read? Here are five signs that he is interested in you too. If any of the following happens, he is probably trying to get close enough to ask you out: 1. He tells someone Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you’re from. He is trying to act like he’s “just asking” but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds …

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Desperate ex-husband enquiring on lower payment of monthly maintenance order

Number of View: 737 Hi Gilbert, Recently, I went to receive the Family court order that I need to pay the following lump sum of monthly maintenance to my ex-wife:- 2 Children =$500 Wife =$100 House Utilities =$150-200 House rent =$44 Conservative Charge =$88 House and internet service $100 And next year school fees for my 2nd child =$250-280 Currently I am paying:- 1 bike =$527 1 bike =$350 1 Malaysian car – $300 1st wife maintenance – $300 Singtel hp =$100 Singtel Hp =$100 Currently I am not staying with her and my salary is only $2400. Now I don’t think I can manage to pay the full maintenance court order and thinking if its possible to go back to Family court to ask for lower maintenance payment. Desperate

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Divorced man checking on reducing maintenance payment to ex-wife

Number of View: 1110 Hi Gilbert, First of all,  I would like to thank you for setting up http://www.steadymarriages.com for people like us who are divorced and need emotional support. My scenario:- Married for 5 years. Officially divorced in June this year; no kids. Mutual agreement that I pay my wife $30,000 (lump sum) and subsequent monthly maintenance of $250. Currently:- My wife is living in Malaysia (JB) and is travelling to and fro  Singapore for work. My finances are tighter (no OT and currently studying a part time course) Basic less than 2k. I would like to reduce the monthly maintenance  but am lost on how to apply to the court. Able to advise or provide me a website/link? I tried to google but no avail. (the only thing I find is the link on how to enforce maintenance and not reduce it: http://app.subcourts.gov.sg/family/page.aspx?pageid=3771) Many thanks and regards Philip (not his real name) ******** Reply from our volunteer legal counsel James:   In order to apply for a variation of the maintenance order, Philip would have to engage a lawyer or to do it himself by going to court and seeking assistance at the Family Court Registry. He needs …

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The 10 Most Important Things In Life I Learned From Talking To Old People

Number of View: 348 I’m a relatively young man. I don’t consider myself wise but I do pay attention more than most people my age. Obviously none of you online know me, but I am what you call mouthy. I love to tell stories, jokes, and in general my life is an open book. I love to have fun and tell those around me exactly what I’m thinking. Believe it or not when I am not talking I am doing something even more important, listening. I truly enjoy a good conversation and especially with those older. I give speeches (mostly on plants) and tomorrow is for a group of seniors 80 and older. Everyday I look at older people and think, what have they done right and what did they do wrong? Here is the list of what I have learned from people 70 and older in relation to finance. I have gathered it all from talking to seniors about what they did right and what they wish they had done. 1. Be patient Money must be saved over a long period of time. Don’t take high risks for quick returns. Investing is a marathon not a sprint. 2. Take …

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25-year-old filing for divorce and worried about rental cost

Number of View: 564 Hi Gilbert I’m a Singaporean Chinese citizen, 25 years old. I’ve been deciding whether to file for a divorce. And finally made up my mind today. And the answer from my heart is Yes, I should. I’ve been feeling depressed and miserable for months. But I’m currently studying part time diploma, and my full time job is pending confirmation (still under probation). I’ve asked my boss whether I can work in another part time job and he said it’s better not to. I can’t live with my parents now as they have already rented out my room, and I do not want them to worry about my current condition. I will let them know once I have settle everything. However, the rental fees in Singapore are really costly, and my monthly salary will not be sufficient, I’ve been trying to sell/give away my things recently but there are still a lot of things, left behind. I wonder if the landlord will allow me to bring my stuff and live in their home. Are there any temporary home for divorced citizens? Broken Editor’s note: This article is retrieved from a comment posted on the site.

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