Recently-divorced mum wants to extend a helping hand to another recent divorcee

Number of View: 365 Hi Gilbert, I just happen to stumble into your site and read about Irene’s plight. I thank God for His guidance and indeed I know Him deeper as my personal Lord and Father through my own difficult marriage of 19 years and 2 years of subsequent divorce journey. At the age of 51 (soon), I am left with a 14-year-old teen to support and with all financial burden because I need to retain the matrimonial flat to house the child. Although it was the direction of the Lord and He miraculously gave me a just trial as He promised, I am still not spared the cost of divorce. I asked for no maintenance for myself and child so as to give a fair deal to the court to request the flat to be paid yo my ex based on the welfare of my child. Currently, my essential expense is almost $1.5k /month excluding food, personal and educational needs. If HDB allows me as a single parent to be able to sell the flat after 6 months or one year instead of 5 years, life would be easier for me. Although I can rent a room for myself …

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Mother requesting advice for sole custody of child due to violent father

Number of View: 439Dear Gilbert, My child is born out of wedlock but birth certificate has the natural father’s name included in it. The relationship with my child’s father has been strained in late 2014 due to character differences and my suspicion of his infidelity. I have been the main caregiver since, staying at my mother’s side. He has only met my child  5 to 7 times last year in 2015, and only once in March this year. Mostly, I am the one initiating the meetings for my son’s sake. Thus, I have been pestering him to do up an application to transfer our child’s custody to me, in which he has complied but failed to do so later. I have asked him to seek a lawyer to do so as he is willing to and has the capability (in terms of finances) to do so. In 2016 I have also requested for monthly maintenance, but till date he has only given me once in April. Recently, I have received direct information from his girlfriend’s sister. This is the very same girlfriend whom I have suspected they had something going on back in 2014. His girlfriend’s sister told me that …

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