Woman feared for her family’s safety due to a abusive husband

Number of View: 370 Dear Gilbert, Thank you for providing a website and forum for the divorcing and divorced. We need more like this avenues around. This year, I filed for a divorce with my spouse. He has been abusive towards, myself and our two young children, PPO was granted to us, against him. At first, he agreed to sign divorce papers, then he deployed delay tactics on the day itself, and has refused to maintain any form of communication with me. I paid for the lawyer’s fee in full and because of a clause that the lawyer put in, payment of $50 for every month that the divorce case remains unsettled in his office, I may have to drop my lawyer. I really hope to divorce my spouse but I do not know how to do this, as he is most likely not to turn up when required nor cooperate in any sense. We have been separated since September last year. Every day I live in fear for my children, as he may pull my children out of their school and take them away from me, to a location which he will obviously not tell me and he would …

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10 myths about sexless marriage

Number of View: 626 Myths About Sexless Marriage Sexless couples rarely or never have sex. Some sexless couples still occasionally have sex. For instance, one couple had sex almost every day when first married, and could hardly keep their hands off each other. After several years, they settled into a pattern of sex once or twice a month. Sometimes they went three or four months without sex, and when they had sex it was passionless and mechanical. Although they usually both had orgasms, there was no eroticism, passion, kindness, or generosity to it. As far as they were concerned, their relationship was sexless and barren. Sexless couples are likely to be older. Although frequency of sex declines as people get older, many young couples do not have sex. Because of stereotypes that young couples have sex all the time, they silently suffer thinking they are really screwed up and their relationship is doomed in future years. Most people believe adolescence is the sexual prime of life, but this refers to genital response. Many people are much better in bed when they get older. Becoming more comfortable with your sexuality, your body-and accepting yourself in general-really helps. It turns out that …

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Coping with Infidelity: How Do Affairs Begin?

Number of View: 353Introduction: The most commonly asked question I receive is about infidelity. That’s because affairs are so common in marriage. You or your spouse are more likely to have an affair than you are to divorce. And your chances of divorce are already 50-50. An affair is devastating to almost everyone involved. It’s one of the most painful experiences that the jilted spouse will ever be forced to endure, and it is also very painful for the children. Friends and members of the extended family are usually hurt as well. But what most people don’t realize is that the unfaithful spouse and the lover are also hurt by the experience. It almost always causes them to suffer acute depression, often with thoughts of suicide. With all this sadness, why do so many people do it? I have already posted several columns on infidelity, but I continue to receive letters from those wanting even more information and help. So I have decided to write a 4 column series on how to cope with this monster. Each column will focus attention on one aspect of affairs — from how they begin to how marriage can recover after they end. Affairs …

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Father suffers from child alienation and fights for sole custody of his two sons

Number of View: 291 Dear readers, I have a problem too. I am a Muslim. I have two kids. The eldest is a 8-year-old boy. He doesn’t t want to stay with the mother. Because he often gets beaten by her boyfriend’s mum. The custody for both kids is with the mum under sole custody. The longest period I was not able to see him was one year. My ex-wife stays in Malaysia and my son commutes by a chartered bus to school everyday. One fine day he ran away from the school bus and he took his own bus to my house in Singapore. That is from Singapore customs to my house. The mum has been trying forcefully to bring him back there ever since. He would cry at the very mention of her name. I love my kids and I cannot bear to see him being dragged home forcefully. Currently my son is admitted to the hospital due to phobia of being forcefully taken home. I have lodged a police report as there was some bruises on his body. What can I do here? I called up the family court and they mentioned that custody can only be …

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