42-year-old father applies for downward variation of maintenance and feeling stressed

Number of View: 339Hi Gilbert I came across your website. I am a 42-year-old Singaporean. I lost my job in the year of 2014 October, I was earning about $5,300.00 then and able to pay my maintenance to my 8-year-child of about $2K to $2.2K. I started my business in 2014, it failed and was unable to pay my maintenance. I managed to land a  job with basic salary of $2K on Dec 2015. I applied for a variation on Jan 2016, The judge ordered a maintenance of $1,500.00 on March 2016 and I am unable to manage that with my $2K salary. …

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Polo patient seeking support over abusive relationship by husband from India

Number of View: 278 Peace be upon you Mr Goh, I am Siti (name changed) and a polio patient. I am writing to you as I need guidance and support to walk away from an abusive relationship for my 2 teenage kids whose studies are very affected by it. I got married to a man from India, not knowing that he is already married there with 2 children. His marital status in India remains unchanged. He has however, been very physically abusive towards me when I refused to apply for PR for his India relatives and they in turn have …

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After Divorce: 8 Tips for Reinventing Yourself

Number of View: 414 After Divorce: 8 Tips for Reinventing Yourself 8 ideas to help you shape your post-divorce life. By Gina Shaw WebMD Feature Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD It’s over. You’ve signed the divorce papers, and the relationship you entered with so much hope is officially dissolved. Everyone’s divorce story is different. Maybe you had been married for decades, maybe just a year or so. Maybe you have children, maybe you don’t. Maybe the divorce was your idea and maybe it was your partner’s, or maybe you both agreed that separation was best. Maybe you’re relieved, maybe you’re …

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Woman married for 30 years seeking support over husband’s extra-marital affair

Number of View: 338 Hi Gilbert I have being married for more than 30 years. I forgave my husband’s first unfaithfulness incident as my kids were young then. Recently, I discovered for past 2 years that my retired husband has been meeting his married subordinate occasionally but sms almost daily, morning and afternoon till pass midnight with very lovy dovy messages which I have never received – sending pix even while she was doing spa. I am well connected but as a God-fearing person I am never involve in any inproper behaviour. So I guess I am hurt and tired …

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