42-year-old father applies for downward variation of maintenance and feeling stressed

Number of View: 286Hi Gilbert I came across your website. I am a 42-year-old Singaporean. I lost my job in the year of 2014 October, I was earning about $5,300.00 then and able to pay my maintenance to my 8-year-child of about $2K to $2.2K. I started my business in 2014, it failed and was unable to pay my maintenance. I managed to land a  job with basic salary of $2K on Dec 2015. I applied for a variation on Jan 2016, The judge ordered a maintenance of $1,500.00 on March 2016 and I am unable to manage that with my $2K salary. The new maintenance order is $1,500.00 from Jan 2016 onwards. My last year IRAS income was $15K for 2015. The judge told me that I can appeal but the family court asked me to fork out $3K deposit for the appeal. I cannot afford this amount. My ex wife is applying for enforcement again. If the $1,500.00 maintenance carries on and I am not able to cope, how can I reduce my maintenance? Is there any other option? I am also looking for a better paying job. Are there any head hunters you can recommend? Appreciate your assistance. Looking forward to your …

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Polo patient seeking support over abusive relationship by husband from India

Number of View: 235 Peace be upon you Mr Goh, I am Siti (name changed) and a polio patient. I am writing to you as I need guidance and support to walk away from an abusive relationship for my 2 teenage kids whose studies are very affected by it. I got married to a man from India, not knowing that he is already married there with 2 children. His marital status in India remains unchanged. He has however, been very physically abusive towards me when I refused to apply for PR for his India relatives and they in turn have also assaulted me when their manipulation on me failed. I am in possession of a valid PPO. He now wants to divorce me based on his own lawyer’s terms and wants to take 90% of the proceeds back to India to be with his family. I get abused all over again when I refuse to accede to his unreasonable terms. He is now in remand at IMH waiting to be discharged after threatening to slice my daughter with a knife yesterday and this frightens me! I’m sick and tired with no one else to turn to, I hope you can …

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After Divorce: 8 Tips for Reinventing Yourself

Number of View: 314 After Divorce: 8 Tips for Reinventing Yourself 8 ideas to help you shape your post-divorce life. By Gina Shaw WebMD Feature Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD It’s over. You’ve signed the divorce papers, and the relationship you entered with so much hope is officially dissolved. Everyone’s divorce story is different. Maybe you had been married for decades, maybe just a year or so. Maybe you have children, maybe you don’t. Maybe the divorce was your idea and maybe it was your partner’s, or maybe you both agreed that separation was best. Maybe you’re relieved, maybe you’re heartbroken — or a bit of both. But however you got here, the question now is where do you go from here? And how do you figure out who you are and what you want as a newly single person? What is your new life going to look like, and how do you start moving in that direction? Here are eight of the first steps: 1. Let yourself mourn. Nobody gets married thinking, “I sure hope we can get divorced someday!” Even if, by the time you split, the divorce was something you wanted, a divorce still represents a loss. …

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Woman married for 30 years seeking support over husband’s extra-marital affair

Number of View: 270 Hi Gilbert I have being married for more than 30 years. I forgave my husband’s first unfaithfulness incident as my kids were young then. Recently, I discovered for past 2 years that my retired husband has been meeting his married subordinate occasionally but sms almost daily, morning and afternoon till pass midnight with very lovy dovy messages which I have never received – sending pix even while she was doing spa. I am well connected but as a God-fearing person I am never involve in any inproper behaviour. So I guess I am hurt and tired and decides that if I am not appreciated nor love I should move on otherwise it is tormenting sleeping next to your husband who is thinking of another lady all the time. Thus I spoke with him recently when I found out about this extra-marital relationship which he claims he was not being unfaithful to me but if  I want an amicable divorce he will agree. I am looking for a lawyer now and chance upon your support group which I feel will help me to handle this issue more calmly as I have already gone into depression 3 years …

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