Woman legally married but never stay together with husband

Number of View: 305 Hi Gilbert, How does a woman cope after a divorce? I have been legally married and had my customary marriage but my husband has never wanted to live together with me. Due to some misunderstandings on his birthday and our wedding anniversary, we stop talking all of  a sudden. I tried to ask him for reunion dinner but he rejected. I was able to sweep this unhappiness under the carpet and get on with my daily activities for 7 months. But for some reason I have to contact him for work and I realise he is not answering my phone calls. Then I started to call him and message him like crazy and finally he answered my call and said that I’m naïve, he no longer has any feelings for me and why I didn’t call him for one year. I asked if he has another woman outside and he denied. I beg to meet him to pass him a birthday present and he came. But he just came, took the present and left me at my house downstairs. I felt I love him still and wanted to patch back so I kept calling him and …

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Man’s horrible experience with China ex-wife regarding child access

Number of View: 296 Hi Gilbert Thank you for reply. I’m  married to a Chinese woman who took Singapore citizenship about 10 years ago. When our daughter was born in 2011 my wife insists her parents from China to help us with the child raising. However they didn’t speak English and I couldn’t speak Mandarin. Things where good until they start to get very possessive and claim more rights to my child which my wife supports and ask me to do it out of respect to them. I was very a hands-on father and it was very difficult to let go of my child just to please the rest of the family. However to avoid conflict I just allow them to get involved in raising my child – still shuffling between work and parenthood as much as I could. In 2014 we move out to different place to live on our own but  discover later  my parents-in-law started undermining me  by desperately trying to pull my child towards themselves. My wife runs her own business and she was often absent that’s what make them worried that the child will grow closer to me instead to her. Despite my hard effort …

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Woman concerned about gay ex-husband’s access to their only son

Number of View: 300Hi Gilbert When my baby was 4 months old, my ex husband would spend a lot of time on his personal laptop. He always said he needed time for himself. He would stay up late and wake up late. He was also a compulsive liar and hardly help me with the baby. Sometimes he would even lie that he was working late and staying overnight at his office but the fact was he was sleeping over at his parents’ place. One day when he was out, I checked his laptop. I knew his Facebook password and he was fond of using aviation terms. The laptop doesn’t store record of temporary files at all. Yes he did delete history. Apparently that laptop belongs to his father and his sister would use it occasionally. I stumbled upon 1 suspicious pervert email. It couldn’t be his sister’s. I used his Facebook password. There were many emails he sent to gays and he even sent pictures of his private parts to them. He even signed up at least 3 gay websites or forums. I managed to find out from one guy in his 50s who was a married highflier that he …

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