Wife depressed over husband’s behavour after contracting illness

Number of View: 218 Dear Gilbert My husband and I recently married and unfortunately we are already considering divorce. I’m unsure if we’re eligible to file for a divorce but here’s the gist of our story and I seek and would greatly appreciate your invaluable advice. It hasn’t been easy. He was diagnosed with a illness recently. Albeit shocking, I willingly accepted our sudden twist of fate and took on the role of his primary caregiver. I ultimately left my job just to care for him full time. I have minimal emotional support to turn to, as I prefer keeping things to myself. My relationship with my own family is also a weak one. We live alone at our own place and so his family members became his secondary source of support. In other words, I would think a lot is on me. Throughout his battle with hs illness and up till today, I acknowledge that it’s natural and only normal for him to feel beaten, negative and especially apprehensive over his future, which is why I never gave up encouraging him every single day on this difficult journey to recovery. However, despite that, during treatment and even now that …

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Father worries about bonding with son after divorce

Number of View: 280 Dear Gilbert I chanced upon your website when I was searching online for help for my situation. My marriage is on the rocks since perhaps 4 years ago and despite what I feel as best efforts on my part, yesterday my wife says with renewed determination she wants a divorce. The strongest reason why I have avoided the path of separation/divorce is because of my son. Without going into details, may I ask:- 1) How is it possible for a non-custodial father to be able to “be there” for my son and still be able to build bonds and relationship with my son even though I am not living with him? What can I do to mitigate the possible negative effects of my son growing up without his father living with him? 2) Is it possible to be separated but still living under one roof and not render the separation void? What are the dos and donts? Eg. Can my son still go out with me and my wife on weekends together while we are being separated? I want to avoid letting my son feel like anything is out of norm and let him feel as …

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