Mother of one facing eventual divorce with fear that son may be taken away

Number of View: 256 Dear Gilbert, Good Day, I have been married for 12 years, we have 1 son and now my husband wants to divorce because he does not love me like a wife anymore (I suspect he got another woman). He also threatened to take my son away. My husband requested me to stop work to look after my son during year 2012 until now. My husband pays for everything, he has his own business in Singapore and earns more than $10,000 per month. I have no income and no money to leave him and I am so scared, angry, alone and don’t know what to do. I am xx years old and my son only xx years old and currently we own a HDB 5-room flat (HDB instalment by using my husband CPF). What happens to the HDB flat after we break up? I never imagine this would happen to me and I really very scared he will take my son away, because he knows my son means everything to me. I feel hopeless now and can’t stop crying. I need advice and help to know more about the divorce procedures and appreciate your taking the time …

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27-year-old Singaporean wants to end relationship with domineering 35-year-old Thai singer

Number of View: 257 Dear Gilbert, I hope you can reply to me on this as soon as possible. My name is Michael and I’ve been in a relationship with my Thai National girlfriend for almost 1.5 years now. She’s a singer at a club and has been one since the start of our relationship. I am 27 this year, and she is 35. The reason for our end of the relationship is just a clash of personalities. She’s domineering and I can’t take it any longer with her temper and mood swings. She is now threatening suicide and I’m worried for her safety. I want to take her somewhere she can be helped because I don’t want to call the police. I have kept all the knives in the house and locked the windows. But she has still told me she can consume detergent or break the glass to kill herself. It could happen any time now and I’ve been lying to her about not wanting to break up but obviously this is not the way. Please help me. Michael

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Woman with 2 kids emotionally torn by the end of her marriage

Number of View: 212 Dear Gilbert I have since contacted the lawyer I first got in touch with. Now, to deal with myself, the emotional part. I think I have not come to terms with the demise of my marriage (we have not officially file) and finding it hard to move on. I find myself getting angry, envious, frightened and sad with everything, everyone, i.e. he and the children. May I know how the email Counselling works, I write everything I wish to tell or are there specific questions I have to answer? Although, your website indicated the benefits of face to face Counselling, I think I am not prepared to pour my heart out to someone personally yet. I have been to Counselling last year (before he mentioned divorce), to try and save my marriage. I often cried more than I talk so I think I won’t try face to face this time, not yet. Also, as crazy as it sounds, I am still hoping we won’t file in the end. I am in a dilemma. Part of me tells me to give up and walk away as since this marriage and family were my everything and now that …

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