Woman with newborn baby contemplating divorce due to unsupportive husband

Number of View: 228 Hi Gilbert I’m not sure where to begin or if your group is suitable for my situation. But I’m really at a loss right now and at a very dark point in my life. Hope to get some guidance from you. I’m currently contemplating divorce with my husband. We have a 7-weeks-old newborn baby. But things have gotten really bad since our baby’s arrival. He’s become a totally different person or should I say he has shown his true colours. I received no support from him emotionally and even financially since baby arrived. Though he still plays and spend time with baby but he treats our home like a hotel. Leaving me to care for baby and do the housework while he spends long hours out of the house. It was a difficult delivery process for me and the recovery was painful. I was so emotionally vulnerable for a month due to post natal blues but during this period instead of caring and showing concern he blew his temper at me easily and threatened to take my baby away to give his mum to take care if I even say I was tired or anything. After …

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Advice from Singaporean woman married to Caucasian for 20 years

Number of View: 265 Hi! I am a Singaporean woman married to a Caucasian for 20 years with 2 kids, living abroad. Just wanted to offer some encouragement. Of course, marriages are not perfect since we aren’t married to God but a mere mortal man. So flaws are part of us who we humans are. I love my husband as I know he does me but we too have our own complaints about one another. If you are on solid grounds when it comes to love… Financial, who spend how much and who wants what is but that barrier (even the house, car, materialistic stuff) is that extra that just confuses the relationship. In US, where we reside… tornadoes, floods, hurricanes can take away anyone’s home in an instant. Same with jobloss, long term unemployment, financial mismanagement (debts, student loans, underwater mortgages, foreclosures etc.). And for many homeless normal peeps… unlike the endless summers and void decks and benches in playgrounds… homeless here faces winter… often deadly. It makes one treasure what is life. Just life. And precious as time is (don’t know when will die that sudden death) one learns to live with what time alloted us now. Love …

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Advice for woman undergoing divorce: “Nobody can help you except yourself!”

Number of View: 301 Hi Jean I was like you and at that time, my 2 girls were Primary 4 and 5. I didn’t want them to feel the hurt and yet am feeling the pain and I have no where to turn to. So, I did what a mother needs to do – I look after them and upkeep the house…yes, upkeep…I paid for everything with every penny I earn even to the extend of  owing Credit Cards debts. It was easy to get instant cash anytime with Credit Cards and I have a lot of those “instances” that was urgent and in need. My husband? He took up a managerial post in KL and comes back once a while to visit and happy with his mistress. Leaving all the bills and responsibilities to me. Yes, I am working – as a shipping clerk. You are more lucky, you don’t have the financial burden. I went though it all. I pity party 6 months!! Lost my job, got fired because I can’t focus. And I know I have to put food on the table…so I bite the bullet and find a job quickly (any job come I grab) and …

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