Father of 2 young children decided to end marriage after wife found going astray

Number of View: 245 Hi Gilbert I am facing sleepless night for the past 1.5 months and have lost most of my appetite. I have since lost more than 15 kg. I am betrayed by my wife. My wife has suddenly asked for a divorce. She cited many stupid reasons of which none of them even came close to being a good one. Even her family members think so. About 7 days later, I realised she has a “good friend” who always drove her around. She even lied to her own brother about what this good friend does. Since that fateful day, she had been staying with that “good friend” who is a divorcee. Sometime she will bring my kids and my maid there. She claims that they have no relationship other than friendship, but what is gathered by the PI seems to say otherwise. My daughter (about 4 years old) told me that she saw my wife and that guy sleeping on the same bed and holding hands. I don’t think any good friend does that. We have two pretty children. One 4 years old and one just turn 1 year old on Chinese New Year. I am willing …

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10 Steps to Recover from a Divorce or Breakup

Number of View: 449 10 Steps to Recover from a Divorce or Breakup Posted by Rinatta Paries on May 3, 2010 11:08 PM Divorce, or the breakup of a serious relationship, can be a devastating ordeal, and recovering from them can be a difficult, treacherous road. Sometimes people don’t recover at all. Others, although appearing to be past their divorce or breakup, still carry the pain with them, as well as the fear of getting close to a partner again. Below are ten ways to help you recover, get your life back on track, and guarantee a bright relationship future. 1. Grieve deeply and completely. Many times people are terrified of dark feelings such as sadness, depression, and anger. The intensity can make you feel like they’ll take hold of your soul forever. The key point to remember and trust is that although these feelings are indeed strong, they won’t last forever. Nor will they destroy or damage you. As a matter of fact, you’ll likely be in a better place emotionally once you’ve let yourself work through them. 2. Grieve for the future you thought your marriage or relationship once had, which now will never be. When people come …

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Recently-married woman devastated by husband’s newfound love and affair

Number of View: 252 Hi Gilbert, I found your email online while looking for help and support group on annulment and divorce. We have been together for close to 8 years and married for 2.5 years. Two months ago, I discovered that my husband has an affair with his colleague and things developed further after I confronted him. It started with a crush and it moved on intensely within two months. I was devastated, I have to admit that the sparks on our relationship may somehow have been distinguished, but I never thought that we had a problem. Before this happens, we always go on trips to explore other countries. A month ago, he told me that it’s time we move on to our own lives and he wanted to be alone. He never once admitted the existence of a third party but said that it was due to our differences and quarrels which built up over time and he could no longer love me the same way he used to. I tried ways to bring back the sparks in our relationship but he just pushed me further and totally avoided me by going off early and coming back late…or …

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