PMET earns $1500/month but needs to pay $3001 to family after divorce

Number of View: 256 Hi Gilbert I stumbled about the steadymarriages website and is prompted to write to you about downward variation of maintenance, I am a PMET who is retrenched in June 2014. I am currently working as a Admin Officer at $1,500. My monthly maintenance to my ex-wife is $1 to herself and $1,000 each to my 3 children. (total $3,001) I pay $150 for advice to a lawyer about downward variation and was told my chances was slim. The lawyer mentioned that there is not much of a material change in my circumstance and my children should not suffer because of my low pay. I am currently in arrear of $6K of maintenance. I would like to engage you to help me apply for Variation of Maintenance. Can you quote me a reasonable rate. Thank you. Eddie Editor’s note: We have refer the writer to our legal counsel and schedule an appointment to see him for other issues. We will also invite him to our 11th batch of support group in April for those who are struggling in their divorce-related matter.

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Sociology undergraduate from single-parent family seeking assistance on post-divorce experiences of single parenting

Number of View: 262 Hi Mr Gilbert Goh, my name is Aubrey and I am a final-year student from a local university, studying sociology as my major. I want to apologise for such an abrupt and informal email because I am not a single-parent seeking for help. My main reason for dropping you this email is because I want to understand deeper about the divorce experiences and how divorcees cope with the transition to becoming single-parents when the divorces occurred. I am actually doing a graduation project on Single-parents and how they cope with the challenges as well as how they see themselves and how they understand their identities in the Singapore society (in face of a strong emphasis on dual-parenthood). The reason why I started this project is because I also come from a single-parent family and my dad left my family three years ago for another family and also left with a huge amount of debts for my mom to clear. That was then when I saw how my mom struggled through to hold the family together especially when I was about to enter University. Hence, for my graduation project, I wanted to understand even more about the …

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