Divorced woman suffering in slence as ex-hubby remarried and seeking counselling help

Number of View: 318 Hi Gilbert, My beloved has left me for 7 years now. During those 7 years, he will come home to stay as and when. Sometimes, days, weeks or at one time, he stayed away for almost 2 years in total. We were divorced since 2012 when he has successfully coerced me into signing on the document and so, he regained his freedom. I have been standing for my marriage (in the name of Jesus) since then. The journey was long, cold and hard because no one seemed to understand what I am doing. I prayed for every single lie that my beloved told me and also, for only one out of the many promises that he had made to me to come true. As usual God is quiet and I am quiet too. Only less than 24 hours ago, I came to know that my beloved has got married and that “woman” has recently delivered a baby boy for him. I was shocked, numbed and hurt. I thought it was God who wanted me to stand and wait upon Him and in due course, my marriage will be restored and became stronger than ever before but …

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Divorce: Help Your Children (divorceandchildren.com)

Number of View: 294  Articles: HELP YOUR CHILDREN In the Beginning… If possible, have both parents present when telling children about the divorce. Discuss what you will tell children before hand. Also, keep explanations simple and avoid placing blame. Use general statements such as Mom and Dad can’t live together anymore or Mom and Dad have decided we would be happier living in different homes. Tell your children that the divorce is not their fault. Children need to understand the decision to divorce had nothing to do with them or their behavior. Further kids should be told there is nothing they can do to change what is happening in the family nor is it their responsibility to fix the family. Tell your children that you love them. Make sure they understand the love shared between a parent and child and is different than the love shared between a husband and wife. Kids need to know that the love you have for them will last forever. Reinforce it is okay to love both Mom and Dad. Children should not feel they have to take sides or worry about losing the love of either parent. Give children details regarding how life will …

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Extremities: The Pain and Promise of Divorce (psychcentral.com)

Number of View: 310 As the divorce process unfolds, especially within the first several months, you will probably go through a series of emotional extremes. The divorce, as it tears apart the fabric of your marriage, will probably tear you up as well. You will be astounded by the intensity of raw pain that can sweep over you, sometimes quite unexpectedly. This is a dangerous time psychologically, and it may not be clear how this emotional eruption could lead to extreme consequences. The person you thought you knew and loved is no longer there, “replaced” by some scary, spiteful stranger. Frightening scenarios, involving both yourself and the other person, become immediately present as possibilities; you will no longer know what to expect from your former spouse or even from yourself. Even if you struggle to hold onto some shred of love, or at least positive feeling, for your former spouse, you will be afflicted by thoughts and feelings that seem to flood into your mind from some primitive, nightmare side of reality. In such moments, you may feel like you are losing your mind. You can go places emotionally where no one else can reach you. You may scream, cry, …

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Woman in 20 over years of marriage find it difficult to file for divorce over husband’s infidelity

Number of View: 223 Hi Gilbert, Thank you for your prompt response. It has been almost a year since my husband asked for a divorce. However, the wound is still raw and the pain and hurt that I feel now is not much less than a year ago. I have told myself to be strong and to forget about such a man (this is the second time he cheated on me), but I can’t bring myself to do it. I slipped into a low mood each time I go home. Like you said in your online diary, evenings after work and weekends are no longer the same as before. I am still wondering what I have done wrongly to result in his infidelity. The other woman whom he is involved in goes into a relationship with him knowing very well that he is married. I feel very unfairly treated as I have dedicated all my time to the family and we built it up from scratch to what it is today. I don’t understand why he does not cherish the relationship and willing to give it all up for someone whom he knows for less than a year. He has …

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