Divorced woman suffering in slence as ex-hubby remarried and seeking counselling help

Number of View: 384 Hi Gilbert, My beloved has left me for 7 years now. During those 7 years, he will come home to stay as and when. Sometimes, days, weeks or at one time, he stayed away for almost 2 years in total. We were divorced since 2012 when he has successfully coerced me into signing on the document and so, he regained his freedom. I have been standing for my marriage (in the name of Jesus) since then. The journey was long, cold and hard because no one seemed to understand what I am doing. I prayed for …

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Divorce: Help Your Children (divorceandchildren.com)

Number of View: 356  Articles: HELP YOUR CHILDREN In the Beginning… If possible, have both parents present when telling children about the divorce. Discuss what you will tell children before hand. Also, keep explanations simple and avoid placing blame. Use general statements such as Mom and Dad can’t live together anymore or Mom and Dad have decided we would be happier living in different homes. Tell your children that the divorce is not their fault. Children need to understand the decision to divorce had nothing to do with them or their behavior. Further kids should be told there is nothing …

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Extremities: The Pain and Promise of Divorce (psychcentral.com)

Number of View: 366 As the divorce process unfolds, especially within the first several months, you will probably go through a series of emotional extremes. The divorce, as it tears apart the fabric of your marriage, will probably tear you up as well. You will be astounded by the intensity of raw pain that can sweep over you, sometimes quite unexpectedly. This is a dangerous time psychologically, and it may not be clear how this emotional eruption could lead to extreme consequences. The person you thought you knew and loved is no longer there, “replaced” by some scary, spiteful stranger. …

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Woman in 20 over years of marriage find it difficult to file for divorce over husband’s infidelity

Number of View: 297 Hi Gilbert, Thank you for your prompt response. It has been almost a year since my husband asked for a divorce. However, the wound is still raw and the pain and hurt that I feel now is not much less than a year ago. I have told myself to be strong and to forget about such a man (this is the second time he cheated on me), but I can’t bring myself to do it. I slipped into a low mood each time I go home. Like you said in your online diary, evenings after work …

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