Housewife seeks support against cheating husband

Number of View: 483 Hi Gilbert I chance upon your website when I am in this dilemma. To leave or to stay? That’s my question. I wish to understand more about my case. Firstly, I would like to thank you for your time reading my lengthy story. My husband admitted to his affair during 2012 Nov and I was devastated, painful and felt so betrayed. Then after half year later when he went overseas, I was very angry and revengeful I went out to club and know this guy. We merely chatted for 2 weeks over the phone and I realise it was a mistake so I call for a stop However its too late my husband found out and felt betrayed. As he is a businessman, he felt I am a disgrace to him and the family though he has tried to forgive me. However things just didn’t work out for the both of us as there is too much hate. I have quit my job for more than a year to be a stay at home mum as we have 3 kids. I have no savings no education. Basically he calls me a useless wife who doesn’t take …

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Legal enquiry: Should woman refund ex-husband’s expenses during marriage?

Number of View: 210 Hi Gilbert, I read with interest that husbands need to pay for holidays as part of maintenance. Until last year, my husband has been asking me back for the airfare and expenses I make when travelling with him after he said prior to the trips that he would foot the bill. I think he must be aware of this as his sister once consulted a lawyer about maintenance when she was contemplating divorce. And now he has stopped giving me monthly household expense and asked me to draw from a business account where earnings from our projects go to. He also asked me to reimburse him for groceries or tools he buys for his woodwork when he makes shelvings for his stuff. In such a case what should I do? Diana ********* Our legal counsel’s reply (Rajan Chettiar, Rajan Chettiar LLC) Your husband is supposed to maintain you and the children during the marriage.  “Maintenance” means all household expenses, daily and monthly expenses for yourself and the children.  This would include holiday expenses.  If you are working as well, then the law expects both of you to share all expenses.

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Contribution to family a factor in awarding assets in divorce case

Number of View: 247 SINGAPORE: The court cannot overlook a dutiful mother’s contributions to the family simply because her husband and children are unhappy with how she ran the household. Otherwise, children with delinquent tendencies would have the power to convict their parents as bad parents when they were only trying to instil discipline. A High Court judge made these remarks on Tuesday (June 10) in a divorce case when deciding on the share of matrimonial assets to award to a woman whose daughters had complained of “abusive, irresponsible and unreasonable behaviour”. the “As far as I could tell, the daughters were unhappy with the way they were brought up, but that is not quite the same as saying that (she) did not take care of the family,” said Judicial Commissioner Lee Kim Shin. “She might not have been the mother her children wished her to be, but that is not the test; it would be dangerous if that were the test.” The case, for which the grounds of decision were released on Tuesday, involved a dispute in the division of matrimonial assets after Madam Tan Yen Chuan, 59, and Mr Lim Theam Siew, 61, ended their 28-year marriage. Mdm …

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Husband locked out of matrimonial home and facing parental alienation

Number of View: 273 Dear Gilbert, Many thanks for your reply. I was reading about a case of a French father who was held for ransom by his wife over minimal alimony and access to his son. My heart goes out to him. My wife’s lawyer wants an answer by the end week (which is16th May). I’m currently staying with my Christian friends. I won’t drag their lovely family by revealing their address so my wife’s lawyer can serve a writ. She locked me out and refused to acknowledge my co-ownership of our matrimonial home. If she sends her writ to our home she’s acknowledging my co-ownership to our matrimonial home (such pettiness). Parental Alienation Syndrome. Well, it’s started already with our kids. They were once loving; now turning away from dad. I have told my wife not to use the kids as pawns. She keeps passing the buck to our kids (so phoney). They will suffer and only wake up in 10 years to realise what bull their mother has given them. Advice: 1) Would you advise me to gain access to our home even if I have the rights and documents? 2) How should I respond to my …

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