Helping Kids Cope with Separation and Divorce

Number of View: 258 Helping children cope with divorce: What to tell your kids When it comes to telling your kids about your divorce, many parents freeze up. Make the conversation a little easier on both yourself and your children by preparing significantly before you sit down to talk. If you can anticipate tough questions, deal with your own anxieties ahead of time, and plan carefully what you’ll be telling them, you will be better equipped to help your children handle the news.  What to say and how to say it  Difficult as it may be to do, try to strike an empathetic tone and address the most important points right up front. Give your children the benefit of an honest—but kid-friendly—explanation.  Tell the truth. Your kids are entitled to know why you are getting a divorce, but long-winded reasons may only confuse them. Pick something simple and honest, like “We can’t get along anymore.” You may need to remind your children that while sometimes parents and kids don’t always get along, parents and kids don’t stop loving each other or get divorced from each other. Say “I love you.” However simple it may sound, letting your children know that …

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Divorce: The First Year

Number of View: 304 Divorce: The First Year by Johanna Nauraine   It doesn’t matter whether you were the one who wanted the divorce or whether you were the one who was left – the first year following divorce is difficult. In all likelihood, you’re living alone for the first time in years. That is either a shock or a relief, depending on the type of marriage you were in. Regardless, it’s a big adjustment. While you may have had other losses in your life, in my experience, there are few that disrupt a person as totally as divorce. It impacts your mental health, your financial security, your family relationships, your home and your children. It is probably an experience you haven’t been through before, so you’re unprepared for the many issues that arise. If you were the one who initiated the divorce you may feel guilty and worried about what the divorce may be doing to your spouse and children. If you left because you felt abused in the relationship, you may still be angry. You might feel resentful towards your ex for putting you in the position of having to make such a difficult choice. If you left …

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Woman with young child struggling with temporary work and difficult marriage

Number of View: 176 Gilbert, Many times, I have wanted to walk out of my marriage but because of my boy I hold back. I manage to get this far is because of my little one and I do not want him to grew up from a broken family. I don’t mind all the hardship all I wanted is to have a family of my own – simple, nice and a job. I don’t hope that my hubby will change as I know for a person to change it is very difficult. I personally realised this as I am a stubborn, spoil and rebellious person since childhood. What I am hoping for is he could share and be responsible for the sake of his own son and set a good example for him. I am not a great person myself and I do have my own shortcoming but I love my family and want the best for him. Losing my full-time job is already a stress to me because  know the what I have to face.. I don’t want my child to lose his education and future as well. Am currently still looking for job, my current part-time assignment will end this …

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Divorced man has to pay $1,800 maintenance to children and wife but denied custody access

Number of View: 285Hi Gilbert Thanks for your kind concern. So far I have attended about 10 court hearings, but still I don’t get to access/see my children. Yet the court/ judge still hasn’t taken any action on her for breaching the court order. At the last hearing on auxiliary matter,  it was even worst –  I lost my children’s care and control, matrimonial flat, need to transfer my CPF to her (which my solicitor still don’t know why under Women’s Act), maintenance $1200 /month for children + $600/month for her (total $1.8K a month – my income is only $4K/ month). I also need to pay her legal fees of $4500 and the family service centre (pay to see my children – ridiculous) – really out to make money from victim like me! Worst , this district Judge even stated in the latest court order asking me continue every Saturday for access (11am to 5pm) – go pick my children. But actual fact is this has not been happening for past many many months as my ex-spouse refuses to co-operate! The police were always there waiting for me when I went up to see my children and the gate …

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