Husband feeling devastated after wife left him and three young kids for another man

Number of View: 364Dear Gilbert, My wife has left us (plus 3 Primary school going kids) in  2013 after I found out her infidelity with another man. We have been married for more than ten years, I thought our marriage and family relationship are  good until she met this man. She said she deserved a better man and life and she wanted a divorce. Both of us are working and she has stopped financially supporting the children even before she moved out of the house. Now, she hardly even called to talk to the children ever since she moved out. I love her and I have not love any other woman my whole life. I tried to understand her feelings and tried all I could to reconcile with her but it is all in vain. I really live in darkness, fear, anger, bitterness, loneliness for past 8 months. Some days, I thought I should just wait, wait and wait… for her to realize she made a wrong choice and return. Other days, I tell myself I am the victim, I want to cause her pain as much as she did to me. Other days, I think settle the divorce and …

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37-year-old woman concerned about livelihood after husband initiated divorce proceedings

Number of View: 344 Hi Gilbert, I’m 37 and my husband has just initiated divorce; he felt that we’re more like friends living under the same roof. My world came shattering down. I am currently working part time (since Sep 2013) and my salary is less than $900. Prior to that I hadn’t been working for about 2 years. I lived on my savings and he took care of my daily necessities. While I am trying to digest this sudden move from him, I am very worried about my future lodging and livelihood. I am not sure if he would insists on taking over our 5-room flat and ask me to move out. What should I do? We have no kids. Jenny ************ Hi Jenny As the wife in a divorce matter, you are entitled to ask your husband to pay you maintenance. However, in deciding maintenance, the court will also access your earning capabilities. If you are able to work and earn a living, the amount of maintenance that you may claim from your husband may be reduced. Maintenance basically applies to your monthly basic needs. That would include food, lodgings, medical and other monthly expenses which are necessary. …

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Impact of divorce on children

Number of View: 319 Divorce Children Then number of children affected by divorce in the United States has increased in direct proportion to the number of divorces in the country. Research estimates show the ratio of children of divorce living in single parent households (compared to two parent families) has risen from about 20% in the early 1960’s up to nearly 50% in the last decade. The number of kids living with one parent in the U.S. today mirrors estimates that claim half of all marriages now end in divorce. Studies have hinted that the number could be even higher in some areas of the country, where divorce rates climb to nearly 60% for low-income, urban families.  Unfortunately, most of the impact of this shift in American family structure has resulted in negative social and economic consequences for the children of divorce. It has been proven that children from divorced families are less likely to graduate from college or earn an average salary. Children in two parent homes enjoy better physical and mental health, and are twice as likely to remain married as adults themselves. Studies show that children’s sense of lifetime marital commitment is undermined when they witness a …

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How to Anchor Your Kids After Divorce: Advice to Fathers (ehow)

Number of View: 498 Divorce affects kids. There’s no question about that. In the United States there are a million new children of divorce each year. E. Mavis Hetherington, a psychology professor at the University of Virginia, reports in her book, Better or For Worse: Divorce Reconsidered, that about 25% of children from divorced families have serious social and emotional problems as opposed to 10% of children from intact families. There are ways to reduce these odds, and dads; the weighty issue is on your shoulders. Here are four steps to follow to ensure your children are minimally affected with emotional and social problems.  Difficulty: Challenging Instructions Things You’ll Need: Patience Joint Custody Residency near the ex-spouse Step 1   Child Support Child support is a must. Non-custodial parent payment improves the standard of living of children-their health, educational attainment, and general sense of well-being. When non-custodial parents (usually the fathers) are financially responsible, the custodial parent (usually the mom) can relinquish demanding full time jobs and be there for her children.   Step 2     Tiddlywinks Reduce Life Stresses Divorce often results in changes in children’s living situations. These changes create a stressful environment for them. You can …

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