Woman with 2 young kids contemplating divorce after husband has affair

Number of View: 304 Hi Gilbert, I discovered my husband is still having an affair with the same woman I found out in 2008. He doesn’t know that I have seen his watsapp conversation with the woman yet.  I had suffered a depression because of this few years back. I am now fully recovered after 4-5 years. We have a house and 2 young kids. I am a highly paid professional with a stable job and have my parents staying at our place helping to look after the kids.  We also have a domestic helper. Can I ask ithe following:- 1) He is to continue to pay for the monthly household contribution 2) He is to move out of the house but allowed on certain days to visit the kids My aim is to minimize any disruption to my kids.  They are happy and bright kids and I do not want a divorce decision to affect their childhood in any way.  I do not want them to know about it until they are old enough to handle it. My husband is always at work (not sure if its true) anyway so the kids won’t suspect a thing.  I also have …

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Dating After Divorce: 10 Rules For A Stress-Free Love Life Post-Split

Number of View: 377 Dating After Divorce: 10 Rules For A Stress-Free Love Life Post-Split The Huffington Post | Posted: 03/19/2013 12:36 pm EDT  |  Updated: 03/25/2013  4:41 pm EDT Think nothing could be more stressful than going through divorce? Try dating after a split, which can be a major source of anxiety for recently-separated singles. Navigating the dating scene after divorce does involve getting out of your comfort zone — but it doesn’t have to be stressful, if you’re able to embrace a healthy mindset and follow a few basic dating rules. “People expect, especially later in life, that dating is going to be the same as it was in their early 20s when they first were dating -– and it’s not at all,” matchmaker and dating coach Kimberly Seltzer tells the Huffington Post. “The pool is different, and people have life experiences and stress to contend with. The first thing to change is your mindset.” Even though things have changed — both in your relationships and out in the dating world — meeting new people doesn’t have to be an anxiety-inducing process. Scroll through the list below for a 10-step guide to getting back in the saddle with …

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Gender Differences and Why They Don’t Matter So Much

Number of View: 236 Gender Differences and Why They Don’t Matter So Much Published by Harriet Hall under Evolution,General,History Comments: 209 Several incidents have recently created divisions within the skeptical community.  The latest one was over a casual comment Michael Shermer made in an online talk show. He was asked why the gender split in atheism was not 50/50, “as it should be.” He said he thought it probably was 50/50, and suggested that the perception of unequal numbers might be because attending and speaking at atheist conferences was more of “a guy thing.” They might have asked him to explain what he meant. They didn’t. He didn’t mean to say it was encoded in the male DNA. He was simply recognizing a reality of our society: male/female interests and behavior tend to differ due to all sorts of cultural influences. Among other things, women might find it more difficult to attend meetings because of lower incomes and the need to arrange for babysitters. Watching sports on TV with other guys and beer is a guy thing too, but not because it’s hardwired into the male brain. It’s a guy thing because of customs and attitudes in our society.  And …

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How Long Does “Typical” Divorce Recovery Take?

Number of View: 496 How Long Does “Typical” Divorce Recovery Take? If you’re not moving beyond your divorce, you may be doing something wrong Published on April 18, 2010 by Susan Pease Gadoua, L.C.S.W. in Contemplating Divorce One of the most common questions newly divorcing people have for me is, “how long will it take before I’m over this divorce ordeal? My answer is always the same: “How long it takes to “recover” from a divorce depends on a number of factors, including how long you were together, how good the relationship was and how committed you were to your spouse, whether the divorce was a surprise to you or not, whether you have children together, whether you or your spouse are involved in a new relationship, your personality, your age, your socio-economic status and on and on. I liken the undoing of a marriage to trying to disentangle two trees that have grown next to each other for years. The more intertwined the root systems are, the longer it will take for the trees to go their separate ways. In addition, grief has a life of its own and you are done* when your grief process is done, and …

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Wife suffering inside from a cold distant relationship

Number of View: 224 Hi Gilbert, Thanks for reverting. I don’t have the mettle to go through the support group sessions. My hubby  is basically a good guy, great sense of humour, reliable friend, pubbing buddy, best travel partner. But he is emotionally unavailable. And he has other personal issues which he would not deal with. Kind of  makes it very hard for me as his wife. Tried personal counselling, marital counselling and talking to him. Didn’t work… He is only able to give knee-jerk reactions. Like now. Yesterday I told him I want out. Now he is frantically doing everything he can to make me stay. Yet again…sigh. Things in life such as work, further studies, social activities etc just occupied our minds most of the time. So, lots of time just flew by. But deep inside I feel miserable. I seem to come home everyday to an empty house (his presence in the house does not seem to matter anymore). I didnt want it this way. All I know is I am not happy in it. It’s causing me a lot of unhappiness. A lot. I can only handle this much. I wanted to leave several times but …

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