Divorced French permanent resident facing parental alienation and high maintenance payment

Number of View: 258 Dear Gilbert, I would  appreciate some advice and direction on the following matter. I’m French, 29, PR since 2008 and recently divorced, as the final judgement is already out in November 2012. My ex wife is Malaysian and PR.I  do not have a lawyer to represent me  during the divorce proceeding  due to the high cost involvedI had a salary of $3.800 before CPF deduction and with a rental expense of 1.200 SGD and as  I’m renting a single room so it is not an expense that I can reduce further. However I agreed to pay a maintenance of $1K monthly though  deep down I knew that I couldn’t afford it. But the whole divorce process took almost 2 years and a lot of pain from my side due to threats on my personal life from my ex wife  plus her refusal to let me see my son if I wouldn’t give so much. She also gave threats of hurting my son e.g.  throwing away gifts through the room in front of the child, etc, To keep it short – her behavior left me with no other choice but to accept her demands in order to …

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Signs of Spousal Infidelity

Number of View: 646Signs of Spousal Infidelity Some statistics say that 85% of women who feel their lover is cheating are correct and 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. If you have suspicions, consider some of the following and be as impartial as possible. Have you noticed a: Sudden increase in time away from home Decreased sexual interest with you Cheating spouse is often distracted and day dreaming Cheating husband or wife is often “unavailable” while at work Cheating spouse attends new functions outside of work and wants to go without you Cell phone calls from you are not returned in timely fashion Cheating spouse leaves house or goes to other rooms to talk on the telephone Cheating spouse uses computer alone and secretly Cheating spouse asks about your schedule more often than usual Mileage on car is high yet he / she reports only short distance errands Clothes smell of perfume or cologne Cheating spouse gets his / her laundry done independently Unexplained payments on bank statements Cheating spouse has more cash on hand without accountability Cell phone bills contain calls with long duration Cheating spouse now has a phone card but never used …

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Can a Marital Separation Make Your Marriage Better?

Number of View: 325 Can a Marital Separation Make Your Marriage Better?       Taking a “Time-Out” Under the Right Circumstances Can Help Relationships Published on April 25, 2010 by Susan Pease Gadoua, L.C.S.W. in Contemplating Divorce There are three main reasons why couples separate: as a step in the divorce process, to gain perspective on the marriage and the third reason is the one I will focus on in this article –  to enhance the marriage. I am a big believer in the therapeutic value of a separation to strengthen the marriage if it’s done in the right way, for the right reasons and if there are clear agreements from the start. This separation can be done at any time and, indeed, is being done by more and more couples. Yet, we still think something is “wrong” if couples live apart and we see separation used mostly by couples who have reached the breaking point. They have usually tried various other interventions and tactics to get the marriage back on track and are now at a place where there’s nothing left to do but split up, physically separate and ultimately divorce. Rather than a means to an end, however, separation …

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Husband worried about getting another resale flat after divorce

Number of View: 528 Dear Mr Gilbert, I have been married for 8 years now and have no children. We are both 32 years old and about to  get a divorce. We have a 5-rppm flat bought from my parents at $270k. We are both paying for the house equally and have paid half of the property cost already. Currently its being valued at around $450k-$500k. My question is as my parents and younger brother  and sister are staying with us, I am worried that  I may not afford to buy a house after the divorce. I am also worried she will use this opportunity to squeeze me as her brother and sister are financially in trouble. Can I afford to buy a house after the divorce?? Appreciate your guidance on this. Regds, Sam ***** Hi Sam As the flat is paid for by you and your wife equally, the court may consider dividing the flat 50/50 between you and your wife. In dividing the flat, the court may also consider indirect or non-financial contribution. This is contribution in the form of doing the house chores, looking after the family etc. In your case, you and your wife do not ahve any children, …

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Young housewife with two kids feeling trapped in a loveless marriage

Number of View: 887  Hi there, I’m a housewife staying in Singapore now with a bad situation. I have no one to talk to and I’m feeling lost. I feels my life sucks. I can’t do anything and I’m so useless. Shame on me…    I use to be a very cheerful and positive thinking person and now living everyday to me is just like a zombie.   I am  even scared to face my husband. Sleeping in the same room and I’m afriad  to be close to him.   My heart is numb and I’m kind of lost now.Seven years ago,  I married my current husband (we both are Malaysian and got our Singapore PR)  and we have two beautiful  sons. My husband and my boys later received the citizenship   so my PR status is dependent  on my husband.  Five years ago,  we have big fight regarding some complicated  family issues and  talking about separation etc. During this period, we have been fighting alot and not getting along well – two years ago we almost kill each other and the police came to my house. I’m very unhappy with this marriage because of his neglect since my second pregnancy. To find a way out,  I …

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