Recently divorced woman seeks legal advice on sales of HDB matrimonial home

Number of View: 391  Hi Gilbert,   I came across your blog and I hope you are able to offer me some advice if you have any information on how/what I can do in my situation.   My divorce Final Judgement was given about 1 month ago.   I have not receive the extraction of the Final Judgement yet but will be soon.   In the Final Judgement we are to sell the HDB apartment within 6 months.     Currently, me and my 3 children are living in it (2 above 21 yrs old but still in school).  I have a suspicion that my ex is trying to NOT sell the apartment or trying to drag the possibility of selling as long as he can as he has to pay me arrears after the apartment is sold (listed on Enforcement of Maintenance Order).     He has refused to answer the calls or messages from Housing Agent.   The housing Agent needs both owners to sign a Resell Checklist for Sellers before he is able to bring in potential buyers.   If I can’t even do this first step, I won’t be able to do anything to sell my HDB …

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Before you divorce…read this

Number of View: 204  Before you throw in the towel – do you know: – Remarrriages have a higher failure rate than first marriages. We think if we just change partners, our problems will be solved. Not so. And if there are children involved, you’ll turn some perfectly nice person into a stepmother or  stepfather. In remarriages with children – stepfamilies – the divorce rate is even higher. Our research estimates that 55-60% of marriages that end in divorce fall into the category of “good enough marriages”. These marriages appear to be functioning well only a year or so prior to the divorce. From a child’s perspective, these divorce are unexpected, inexplicable, and unwelcome and are thus most likely to harm children. These marriages are significantly more likely to divorce because of infidelity, which they blame on “drifting apart” or “communication problems”. These 50-60% of divorces are unlikely to mention abuse because these were not highly conflicted marriages.  – Paul Amato, Smart Marriages keynote   Couples can take a simple Marriage Education class and learn the skills to communicate and fall back in love. Divorce causes a decrease in wealth that is larger than just splitting a couple’s assets in half. …

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The Truth About Why Men Cheat

Number of View: 253The Truth About Why Men Cheat     WebMD Feature from “Redbook” Magazine    By Nicole Yorio Counselor M. Gary Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men’s infidelity. What makes men cheat? Marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman dug through past research on male infidelity and found that most answers came from the wife’s point of view. Wouldn’t it make more sense to ask the guys? he thought. So for his new book, The Truth About Cheating, Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men’s infidelity — including what cheating men say could have prevented them from straying. Here, some of his findings: 48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated. So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about sex: Only 8 percent of men said that sexual dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. “Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is sex,” Neuman says. “But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they’re appreciated, and they want women to understand how …

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Divorced man concerned about welfare of his son

Number of View: 206    Dear Sir,   My wife and I were  married in  2004.    However, I am  currently going through a divorce and  have a 11-year-old son.   Over the last few  years of our marriage,  we have visited three  family service centres for counselling but  my wife have not fully participated.   I have approached the mosque in our neighbourhood where my son is taking his religious class for support but  because of our inter-religious marriage, they were not able to help much.     I have seek your centre’s counselling about one year before  for the problems that my son has been living with  and there has not been any improvement.    The fact that the child is not biologically mine, has caused more distance between us and  its also difficult for him to  fully trust and approach me about his difficulties and concerns.   Just this morning about 4 am my wife was shouting out to my son again and  she has been doing this for the past three years.   Currently my wife is sleeping in the master bedroom by herself  while my son and I have been sleeping in the common room of our home.   Few minutes later when my son wake up to go to …

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Divorced Muslim father inquiring on maintenance issue for child born out of wedlock

Number of View: 448Hi Gilbert,   My ex-wife and me are Muslims and we got married in November 2000. before that we had a child born out of wedlock on April 2000.   In Muslim law,  responsibilities of child who are born out of wedlock fell to the mother.   I did not bring this matter to the court when  my ex-wife filed the claim of maintenance order for this child as I do feel that as a biological father of the child I want to be responsible for the child.   Its been around 2 years that I have paying  maintenance for  this child but  my ex-wife does not allow me to meet my child at all even though  I  have a one day custody access every week to meet my child.   I do not want to bring this matter to court as I do not wish to worsen the situation but  currently I am out of job for nearly 3 weeks and  the maintenance is due soon.   Should I apply for revocation of the maintenance order base on Muslim law as I am not sure if this matter is stated on the Administration of muslim law act.(AMLA) or should i just leave the maintenance to be default …

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Differences Between Men and Women in Relationships

Number of View: 341 Differences Between Men and Women in Relationships: “He Said / She Said” – by KissMeGoodnight.com         The term, “He said/she said” is often heard in the unfortunate case of rape. In this situation the term applies to the fact that when there is little factual evidence on which to base a decision the jury is left trying to determine who’s story they believe and the case becomes one of her word against his. These cases perhaps illustrate the problems regarding he said/she said that couples are faced with in a relationship. Beyond the fact that in a rape case one or both of the parties may not be telling the truth, exists the underlying problem that men and women think and process information differently. The differences between men and women include differences in thought process, sensitivity, memory, and communication. A successful relationship is one that recognizes the difference between men and women and is able to get beyond the he said/she said scenarios. Men and women have a different thought process when it comes to solving problems. While both sexes are capable of solving problems equally well the thought process involved in coming to a resolution varies …

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Divorce Recovery: 5 Stages of Divorce

Number of View: 345 Divorce Recovey: 5 Stages of Divorce Nov 10, 2010   By Julie Garrison Special to DadsDivorce.com Divorce is like a death – but with the corpses still walking around.  Whether you are the one initiating the divorce, or you are at the receiving end, the emotions you experience are too many to list. It’s one of those life changes that you have to live through to really understand.  Just as when a person loses a loved one, the survivor of divorce goes through various stages throughout the grieving process, also. Though there is no way to shorten these stages, in divorce it’s important that you transition through them without getting stuck.  In order to heal, you must travel the entire path – until you reach the point where you are able to move on with your life in a constructive, healthy manner, free of bitterness and remorse. So let’s step onto this rough-trodden path, and watch how one couple, Jason and Amber, navigate their way through the stages of divorce.     Stage One: Pre-decision Something is wrong. The dynamics in Jason and Amber’s marriage are changing. Every couple has an ongoing dance that they do together …

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