Why Do Men Cheat? The Answers May Surprise You!

Number of View: 359 Why Do Men Cheat? The Answers May Surprise You! April 11, 2011 By Tammy 384 Comments Unfortunately when the question arises why do men cheat, we need to clear the air and say once and for all that it is a proven fact that men cheat more than women. Women are not angels by any means and of course, there are some women out there that cheat just as often as men do. If you are in a situation where your partner/husband is cheating on you then you are probably asking yourself “Why do men cheat?”. Well there are several factors that come into play when a man is faced with the decision of whether to cheat or be faithful. Do men cheat because of sex? Why do men cheat– because they are not getting enough sex? Well in some cases this is definitely the reason, but for the most part, men cheat because they have the feeling they are in some way not getting the emotional support for their partner that they deserve. Women are usually in the mind that if their husband is unhappy, give them sex. Although I’m sure the men in our lives …

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Young wife with 2 kids ambivalent about staying married with abusive husband

Number of View: 247  Hi Gilbert I chanced upon the website and I decided to give  online counselling a try. I m married for almost 3 years now. I m 33  and my husband is 37. We have 2 young kids and they are lovely. We were together for 4 years before we got married due to an unplanned pregnancy. He was married when we were together for the first  year but he said he and  his  wife couldn’t work things out and have no children.  Eventually,  he got divorced on the second  year and thereafter we continued the relationship before we got married. Like I said,  it was an unplanned pregnancy but we decided to give it a shot since we both want to keep the child. My story is too long to relate and I am afraid it is too much to tell you in a single email. Having to handle 2 young kids, 2 elderly folks  at home and we were both self-employed –  life is very stressful indeed. We do not have financial issues but I think owe have a lot of  fierce clashes. His parents, whom we stayed with,  are also constantly squabbling at home …

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Asian woman married to Caucasian for 15 years feeling the heat of marital strife

Number of View: 384 Dear Gilbert, I have made several attempts in the past to search for help that could bring me out of this dilemma. Today,  after another argument with my spouse, I came across your website and   it gave me great  relief to know that maybe  my prayer for help is answered. I found your email adress and decided to write. I am 33 years of age and married to a man who  is 10 years older than me for almost 15 years now. We met when I was 16 years old and got married when I was  22 years old. We have two  beautiful daughters age 11 and 12, He is Caucasian and I’m Asian. We have been through a lot of fights in our marriage especially in the last 8 years since we moved to live in Singapore. The fights are less violent than what it used to but it is still there and often end up with divorce threats that we both seem not able to do. I often feel oppressed in the relationship, not really able to express my self clearly, share my opinions or communicate our issues without ending in arguments.   I often find him in …

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Ex husband breaching Consent Order

Number of View: 414   Dear GilbertMy ex and I had a very prolonged divorce (from separation to settlement of auxiliary matters) of about 8 years.  The auxiliary matters were finally settled in June 2011 after many mediations and affidavits and court’s time.The settlement was also a nightmare as he went back on his words on the Consent Order on sale of our property…but we finally managed to sort things out as I gave in to his request, though not justified.  I got my money ( it is not a big settlement despite the prolonged divorce) as my ex would simply want to pay me less than what I have financially contributed to the property.  I have not been working since my son went to Kindy.  I also have a daughter who is now 18 years old.  Son will be turning 21 this April. Both my children are studying overseas.  In the Court Order, my ex was to take care of children’s education , fees, accommodation , medical and allowance.  He has been quite inconsistent in his payment of allowance to my son though he made up his arrears.  During the ‘lag’ time, my son would be in a lurch …

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