Wife with two kids struggling with compulsive gambling husband

Number of View: 663 Hi Gilbert,  A very good day to you. I came across your website  while looking for an online site where I can voice  out my doubts and concerns. Hopefully you will be able to be my listening ear. I am married with 2 beautiful kids, my daughter is coming to 11 years old and my son soon turning  6 years old –  both  are celebrating their birthdays this April. My  marriage, coming to  12 years this June,  is  turning into a tiring journey. for me. My spouse, whom I thought I  knew well enough,  broke the trust I had in him right after a year after our marriage. He is a compulsive gambler, a substance user (more of sleeping pills than drugs..thank God!) calculative and also a liar. We both knew each other since 1995 and  we tied the knot in 2000. His drinking and gambling of 4D and TOTO are well  known but I was still naive enough to think that they would disappear after  we got married. I found out his gambling has been very active like 5 times a week and there’s a period when he is spending like almost $100 per week. I was shocked …

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Will jobless ex senior civil servant who earned $10,000/month before goes to jail for maintenance arrears?

Number of View: 378  Editor’s Note: I am glad to report that Shanmuga was able to raise $400 to pay off his maintenance arrears today when I visted him at the family court. He will need to pay off another $1100 in maintenance arrears on 29 March failing which he will need to go to jail for a week. Singapore probably is the only developed country in the world that jails its’  citizens for not paying maintenance money to their family members  after a divorce. When jobless ex senior civil servant Shanmuga filed into the seat at Novena Hans cafe, I couldn’t help but wondered  if he has got any problem. Always smiling during the 2-hour interview held in  a rain-soaked afternoon and ever so positive despite the huge maintenance arrears he has chalked up since he was jobless from October last year,  Shanmuga may  face a jail sentence when he appears in Family Court no. one tomorrow at 4.45pm. He told me that he took up a part-time courier job just to get by recently  and his $1500/month income is erratic as it depends on the number of courier trips he made between Singapore and KL. This was a far cry from …

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