Husband filing for divorce on wife with a drinking issue and affair

Number of View: 390 Hi Gilbert I’m currently facing sleepless night… I could be drinking till I knock out but after 2 hours, I’ll be up again… waking up in the middle of the night staring at the window till the sun rises… plus I seem to be losing my appetite…. I haven’t been eating much these few days…  finding it hard to accept all that is happening around me… and it’s happening so fast. From the day I found out on the 18 Jan till now.. it’s only 9 days… but we are already planning on divorce.. I tried to patch things up with her… she said she will and not contact the guy… but I found out she’s still doing so. First thing in the morning after waking up is to message that guy good morning dear…  I really find it hard to accept that she’s taking it so easy… what about our daughter? I ask her why she still doing this.. her reason was.. She’s selfish.. she wants attention and people to pity her since her family has ignore her after they found out… she said that man is giving her support and not blaming her… and she feels good… …

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Woman in transition trying to recover and move on

Number of View: 158 Dear Gilbert, I hope you had happy holidays and Happy 2012 to you 🙂 Im sorry –  its been so long since my last correspondence. A lot has happened and I’ve been trying to put the pieces back together- not of my marriage but of my life. Unfortunately, things took a turn for the worst since we last emailed. On December 1st, when I was settling out utilities accounts (ie. electric, cable, etc.) for the apartment, I found out through the cable company that Robbie had transferred the cable and moved all the electronics that we shared to a new place, where he is currently living with another female. He had told me prior that he was going to get the cable shut off and move in with his parents since he was broke due to upcoming divorce fees and other bills. He got mad at first when I confronted him and said he hated me and never trusted me. We broke the lease later on the same day and finally we were able to talk face to face. I poured my heart out to him and he too, was singing a totally different tune. He …

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Is divorce for you? (Divorces.com)

Number of View: 229 Is divorce for you? So will divorce solve your problems?  Will it provide a way to a better life?  The short answer is yes, divorce can be. There is a window of opportunity for those who, having weighed the consequences, still feel that divorce is the only course of action to regain one’s life.  So yes again, divorce can be a viable option and a pathway out of a living hell.  Below are the greatest reasons in which most people feel justified in ending a marriage. Why people get divorced…  Drugs and alcohol Uncontrolled, abusive and binge drinking habits of one spouse can make life a living hell for the other and every member of the family.  The same goes for any addictive substance, be it cocaine or prescribed pain killers.  Keep in mind, however, if you truly love – or loved your spouse at one time – you owe it to them to try to help them with such a problem.  But, you can only suffer for so long.  An addict or drug abuser has to “want to change.”  If you don’t see that desire, then you are wasting your time.  There will come a …

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