Shotgun Marriage in Disarray

Number of View: 371Hi Gilbert,   I’m so glad I saw your website and hope I can have some answers to my problem. I’m too emotionally distressed right now and hope for some help.   Firstly, I have to admit that mine is a shotgun marriage. My story goes like this –  at first when my girlfriend got pregnant,  I intend to take up the responsibility as any normal man would but later  discovered that she is currently married. We waited for her divorce and then we got ROM. The child was born before ROM and thus she followed the mother’s nationality –  Malaysian. All is sweet when she is pregnant, i used up all my savings on honeymoon, prenatal care, wedding band, etc.    The problem comes after the birth of the child, my wife took money from me frequently and even ask me to borrow money from my friends, I did that as I loved and treasured her alot.  She went on her weekly drinking habit and came  home late at night –  once she reached home in the morning. I trusted her and did not wanted to cause a domestic scene as it was late at night.   Always finding little things to …

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Divorce Support

Number of View: 245 Divorce Support It is important to realize that while the experience of going through a divorce can be stressful and traumatic, it is not the end of your life. It is not the end of your happiness or even the end of romance in your life. It is the end of one relationship and although you may feel very alone at the time, the feelings of loss are a temporary stop along the road to recovery. With a healthy outlook and divorce support from family and friends, things will always get better. You will need support and guidance to get through the four stages of divorce; denial, depression, withdrawal and recovery. Time is an important element in the recovery process and as it passes, the negative emotions and feelings will start to subside. Some estimates say that it takes one year of recovery to get over every five year increment of a relationship. This doesn’t mean that if you were married for a decade it will take two years to feel better. It means it may take two years before you are no longer experiencing negative effects from the divorce and have moved on to make …

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