Musings of a single mum

Number of View: 157 Being a single mother means all professions wrapped under the name Mother. Here are my musings on being a single mother: A CEO You must be assertive to let your little tantrum thrower toddler know who is the CEO. Your child can only hold the role of a COO. Competency achieved – Leadership. A Worker You must also have the humility to be their little slave such as cleaning after their mess after a meal, perpetually picking up toys from the floor and if you are in the process of toilet training, cleaning up their little accidents. Competency achieved – Humility. A Project Manager You will need extreme managerial skills to manage your little one as well as maintain a household which includes food on the table, pantry stocked up, clean clothing, vacuumed floors and also play time for the little one. Getting a right balance between housework and stimulation time requires precise time management skill. Competency achieved – Time Management. A Yogi ‘Inhale, exhale’ becomes your day to day mantra. When your tantrum throwing toddler drives you up the wall, you will need the calamity of a yogi to handle the situation. As a reverse, …

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Thirty-eight, married for 12 years and recently divorced with no kid

Number of View: 241Sandra is one of the many thousands of  Singaporeans who are divorced every year and she  has obliged us with an online interview. Out of the 21,000 marriages that are  registered yearly, 7,000 will end in a divorce revealing the fragile nature of our modern families. Most marriages broke up due to financial reason as  the  recent financial crisis continued to take its toil…however for Sandra its a case of a cheating husband who refused to repent his wayward ways. Tell us abit about yourself, how long are you married and any kids? I’m 38 this year. I was married from the year 1999 to 2011 (still in the process of divorce) and have no kid. What were the reasons and how did your husband cope with the divorce? He had an affair with a Vietnamese one and a half year ago and I did tried to give him many chances to save our marriage but he didn’t seem to show any form of repentance so last December I decided to file in the divorce. Now we are still staying under one roof but separate rooms, we are now more like strangers. Will you consider dating again and even re marry? Yes I will …

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