Should marriages have an expiry date?

Number of View: 397 Should marriages have an expiry date? Alyssa McDonald, Sunday Life October 25, 2010 – 10:43AM Divorce is common, traumatic and expensive. Alyssa McDonald proposes making marriage a renewable contract rather than a lifetime promise that’s too easily broken. Dolly Parton understands divorce – or rather, D-I-V-O-R-C-E. “Pure H-E-double-L” is how she puts it, and most divorcees would agree. Who ever enjoyed the process, except perhaps divorce lawyers? It’s miserable for the former couple, worse for the kids and a guaranteed source of gloom and gossip for everyone else. It almost makes you wonder why so many …

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Female reader in mixed marriage contemplating separation

Number of View: 395 Dear Gilbert, I came across your website because I have been toiling with the idea of breaking free for awhile now. Too many issues have gone unresolved for my marriage. I have been married for 7 years now and we have two young children. Since day one when I knew my husband, we already have some issue with his extended  family’s  financial commitment. Mine is also a cross cultural marriage which makes it tougher due to the different cultural background. He  always felt obliged to take care of his family back home financially. He is 1 …

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Adjusting To Reality After The Wedding

Number of View: 191 Adjusting To Reality After The Wedding Written By: Gilbert Goh While we sometimes take years to court a girl, we are hopelessly inadequate in preparing ourselves for marriage. Some have attended a few sessions of pre-marital workshops and thought that they have met the criterion to having a fulfilling marriage. Nothing is further from the truth.  We thought that when we have met the perfect loving person, we will live happily ever after as a married couple. But a rude shock awaits us when the person we love and cherish soon becomes a totally different person …

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Ex-wife Refuses Me Access To Daughter

Number of View: 764Hi Gilbert, I happened to read your article on the proposed changes to our women’s chapter, calling for mandatory counselling, with interest.   It is true that we are seeing more couples taking the  divorce route as it seems to be a quick and easy exit if one is unhappy about their marriage.   The unhappiness leading to many divorces, however,  is not due to a unfaithful partner or an abusive partner, which can be said to be a clear-cut case.   I guessed as a society progresses, some of us are becoming more demanding even on our partner.   A  ‘me-first’ …

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