Woman facing domestic violence from Japanese husband

Number of View: 423 Hi Gilbert, I’ve been married about 3 years more.  My husband is a very hot temper person.  He can  get very angry  for a very small matter eg. he will blow up when I  asked him to catch a cockroach at our house.   My husband  is a Japanese –  I understand that their culture requires wives to obediently  listen to their husbands. I think he’s also over confident by nature  and tend to look down on  others.  He always insulted me by saying that I am slow, stupid, useless, lousy and hopeless.   I felt hurt, I don’t agree with …

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Proposed changes to women’s chapter: mandatory counselling

Number of View: 343 I applaud  the proposed changes to our women’s chapter especially the one on mandatory counselling for divorced couples with children below age 21 years old. Of course, the enforcement of maintenance payment is also a crucial change for  women who normally have custody of the kids.   It is hope that when calculating maintenance payment for their ex-spouse and kids, the family court can also look into the ability of the ex-husbands to pay the enforced amount or else they will keep defaulting through no fault of theirs.  I have heard stories of how a divorced guy has to …

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Wife left me because of my low pay package

Number of View: 523 My name is Peter and I am 46 years old. My wife and I now live separately and the divorce will be finalised after 3 years of separation according to the Singapore’s divorce law. I honestly did not see it coming until about 2 months ago. My wife wanted a divorce and the reason  she gave me at that time was that she is feeling very  tired and earned  more than I do. It hit me real hard and naturally my ego was seriously bruised. I’m totally lost now and felt very useless. Perhaps, my situation is …

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Lee Kuan Yew reads poems to his wife

Number of View: 401 The Saturday Profile Days of Reflection for Man Who Defined Singapore By SETH MYDANS Published: September 10, 2010 http://www.nytimes.com/2010/09/11/world/asia/11lee.html?_r=1&pagewanted=all “SO, when is the last leaf falling?” asked Lee Kuan Yew, the man who made Singapore in his own stern and unsentimental image, nearing his 87th birthday and contemplating age, infirmity and loss.  “I can feel the gradual decline of energy and vitality,” said Mr. Lee, whose “Singapore model” of economic growth and tight social control made him one of the most influential political figures of Asia. “And I mean generally, every year, when you know you …

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A plea from a parent to be there for his child

Number of View: 610 Wee Cheng September 12 at 3:05am Reply Hi Everyone, Some of you might have seen the below letter on my post a while ago. For those who have not, I just wish to share with you this letter that I had written. It is to express my deep concern on the Family Court’s decision of blocking me from my son’s life for 6 months, and the consequent negative impact it is now having on him. I emailed this letter to all the 4 major local English papers but none of them is willing to publish it. …

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Top Five Regrets of the Dying

Number of View: 254 Top Five Regrets of the Dying 09 September 2010  By Bronnie Ware  For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.  People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found …

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Maybe it’s your fault

Number of View: 297 Maybe it’s your fault By Jennifer Garth From: The Sunday Telegraph September 05, 2010 12:00AM INSTEAD of blaming your partner when things go wrong, it might be time for a little self-reflection. Authenticity counts “To have a healthy relationship you need to be in touch with your authentic self,” says Anne Hollonds, psychologist and CEO of Relationships Australia NSW. “When you have a handle on who you are, you can engage honestly with someone else.” All too often, we inadvertently present a false sense of ourselves to our partners, making it easy to be misunderstood. It …

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Gambling addiction has destroyed our marriage

Number of View: 1159 Hi Gilbert My divorce is already at the final stage and we now in the process of  allocating our assets.  Yes till today, I still believe that a imperfect marriage is definitely better than a divorce………….if only this is possible. Sigh. Let me elaborate abit more about my unhappy marriage. All these years, I always tell myself to tolerate my spouse, but I realised that I can’t move forward  if I continue to live with him.  He is a gambler and alcoholic, everything he wants is his way and  showing no respect for me at all.  I …

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