Ex-wife admitted to affair with co-worker

Number of View: 1296 Ex-wife admitted to affair with co-worker by Chong Shin Yen  Admitted affair The man claimed she admitted to the affair. “I gave her two choices – quit her job and return to my side or divorce. She chose the former, so I forgave her,”he said. Then, in December 2008, the ex-wife filed for divorce. The man said she moved out after that and he had not seen her since. Neither had she returned to visit the children. The New Paper called her mobile phone and asked for her. A woman answered the phone, and asked in Mandarin: “Are you a middleman?” She kept quiet when we asked her what sort of middleman she was referring to. When told that she was speaking to The New Paper, the woman on the line claimed to be a cousin of the ex-wife, who, according to her, was too busy to come to the phone. The “cousin”, who did not give her name, then said: “She (the ex-wife) said she had suffered enough and will not talk to reporters. “Since their divorce, she has been secretly going to her ex-husband’s flat. She would hide behind the pillars at the void …

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Has technology made dating impossible for round two daters?

Number of View: 254 Has technology made dating impossible for round two daters? Sydney Weekend Herald August 27, 2010 Dear CityKat, I’m a recently divorced dude, 34, good shape, etc.  I have started dating a chick in her 20s and am getting heaps of sexts, naked photos of her from email, etc. It’s very different to the ‘dating game’ I left behind when I met my ex-wife back in the late ‘90s. But besides the fact that the ‘tools’ we use to date now (internet, mobiles, facebook, etc) have changed, I want to know; have the women changed too? I thought you and your readers might have some thoughts about this – am I too ‘out-of-date’ to date? Cheers, DDD (Divorced & Dating Dude) Well guys, you heard the man. Is he too out-of-date to date (date twenty-somethings in particular, I assume)? It’s a pertinent question in view of the number of thirty-something, ’round-two’ daters looking for love these days. Queensland divorcees who got married at the average age (29 for men and 27 for women*) and divorced by the average anniversary (about 9 years in*) are not quite old, but not quite young. “We’re stuck in the middle,” says …

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Divorced woman suffering from child alienation

Number of View: 294Dear Gilbert,   I thank God that I found  this website and I hope that you  can  help me here. Presently, my ex and I are in the midst of  a divorce and we are  settling our  anxilliary matters and custody of children. I am very concerned  for  my children. I have a  10-year-old old girl and a 14- year- old boy (boy is from my previous marriage. His biological father had passed away) This is the second marriage for both of us.   We are still staying under the same roof for the time being but my ex has been alienating me from my children since the early part of  2010 till now. I am a housewife and have been taking care of my children since birth. When my ex and I decided to  divorce, he  has  brainwash my son to go against me  when I was caring for my young daughter. I was totally devastated at my son’s attitude towards me. Both my children now have turn against me by saying that I have beaten them frequently to support their father which is not true. Apparently, I can’t see my children at home whenever I am back. My …

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Ten Things Women Love About Men

Number of View: 201 By ahostagesituation I love a good man. I have had good men as friends, boyfriends, and I was reared by one. As it turns out, the good women in my life, both married and single, tend to love good men also, and we started discussing some of the things we love about them. The disclaimer here is that some sweeping generalities have to be made for the purpose of prose. Everyone’s different, and this list is not comprehensive. In fun, for the women that love men, we have our reasons, here’s a rough ten. We LOVE: 1. When You Screw Up. Let me be clear, most women don’t want to date a screw-up, that’s not what we’re saying. It’s just that imperfection can be endearing, if not comical. No one is perfect, and flaws can amuse a woman into solidarity with a man. Now there’s a huge, gaping difference between, “honey, I just slept with your best friend, sorry” and “honey, I lost the gift you gave me, sorry.” Here’s a cute little screw-up of an ex of mine, I actually really like this one. We were headed somewhere, and he’d forgotten to do something, and …

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The romance roundabout

Number of View: 444  The romance roundabout By Denise Cullen From: The Sunday Telegraph August 22, 2010 12:12AM ON-again, off-again relationships come with a heavy emotional toll, but there is a way to break the destructive cycle. Boomerang relationships, where a couple breaks up, then makes up, then breaks up again, are very common for both men and women. More than 60 per cent of adults have been on the on-again, off-again relationship roundabout at some point, says University of Texas professor Rene Dailey, who has written about the dynamic in publications including the Journal Of Social Psychology And Personal Relationships. About 40 per cent say that their current or most recent relationship has, or had, an on-off nature, and many have gone through the cycle with the same person three or more times. While popular culture insists there is something romantic about star-crossed lovers, this on-off pattern does exact an emotional toll. Start of sidebar. Skip to end of sidebar. .End of sidebar. Return to start of sidebar. Dailey’s research reveals that, compared with relationships that do not break up and renew, on-off partners report more unresolved conflict and more criticisms, verbal attacks and other forms of aggressive communication. …

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Let’s talk about SEX really

Number of View: 505 Aug 21, 2010 sex education Let’s talk about SEX really Aishah, 15, has been taught by her teachers how to say no to sex, how to avoid getting into compromising situations with boys, and the dangers of sexually transmitted infections. There is just one problem: She doesn’t know what sex is. She is the product of Singapore’s sexuality education programme which, according to a poll of 300 teenagers by The Straits Times, appears to be falling behind in giving answers to their burning questions. By Tan Hui Yee, Correspondent & Eisen Teo TEEN-YEAR-OLD Aishah sits ramrod straight as she rattles off what she learnt in class last week. ‘We were told to think of different ways to say no to sex,’ she says brightly. ‘We had to think of alternatives to being alone with our boyfriends.’ What are the various ways to say no, you ask. ‘Our answers were all the same. ‘No’ means ‘no’ lah,’ she replies with a steely glint in her eye. But her face crinkles with confusion when you ask her what she knows about sex. ‘My teacher never said anything (about it),’ she admits softly. In contrast, it seems, her primary …

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Divorced man feeling depressed and suicidal

Number of View: 342 Hi Gilbert, I came across your website and have decided to email. I find it hard reading your articles as it just causes too much pain and I am totally lost about what I can do now and I constantly cry and battle suicidal thoughts. I am from France (location changed) and  was married to my wife for many years. We separated  last year while living in Australia after I met a Chinese  girl in a bar during a transit business trip to Singapore, had an affair with her and confessed it all to my wife.  I just could not cope staying and needed to get away for a fresh start but the trouble was I was never able to forget my wife’s own  affair, went to counseling and ended up on antidepressants to this day. I always loved my wife and still do to this day but she has moved on and is now with another man. After she left Sydney,  I continued to see the Chinese  girl until I eventually returned to France  with my company in March.  That turned out to be a total disaster and I ended up having a nervous break down and was off …

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Good grief, grieving may not be all bad

Number of View: 224 Aug 17, 2010 Good grief, grieving may not be all bad By Allen Frances A STARTLING suggestion is buried in the fine print describing proposed changes for the fifth edition of the Diagnostic And Statistical Manual Of Mental Disorders – perhaps better known as the DSM-5, the book that will set the new boundary between mental disorder and normality. If this suggestion is adopted, many people who experience completely normal grief could be mislabelled as having a psychiatric problem. Suppose your spouse or child died two weeks ago and now you feel sad, take less interest and pleasure in things, have little appetite or energy, can’t sleep well and don’t feel like going to work. In the proposal for the DSM-5, your condition would be diagnosed as a major depressive disorder. This would be a wholesale medicalisation of normal emotion, and it would result in the overdiagnosis and overtreatment of people who would do just fine if left alone to grieve with family and friends, as people always have. It is also a safe bet that the drug companies would quickly and greedily pounce on the opportunity to mount a marketing blitz targeted at the bereaved …

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Survey Request from Final Year Psychology Student

Number of View: 301  From: Renee Yap <yongmei@mediacorp.com.sg> Subject: Hi! This is Renee from FM 972 To: gilbert@steadymarriages.com Received: Thursday, 12 August, 2010, 3:11 PM I’m a DJ from Love 972 and i’m currently in my final year BSc (Honours) Psychology. I’m doing a final project on “Forgiveness in Marriage will affect marital quality”. I got to know your site when i was reading Cleo’s magazine, June issue.  I don’t know if you have ongoing meetings for divorce groups. But I would hope to get divorce men and women who have encountered betrayal by their partners to help me do a survey. I’ve attached the survey questionnaires. Would appreciate if you can help me email to them and return to me ASAP. If they have regular meetings and i can come down and pass to them personally too.  I do not require them to reveal their personal names or stories.  Would appreciate you can help me with this project. I need 30 male and female participants each PS: If you want to take part in this survey do email me at gilbert@steadymarriages.com and I will email you the questionaire – Gilbert

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Imported brides popular as money mixes Asian marriages

Number of View: 235Imported brides popular as money mixes Asian marriages Posted: 30 June 2010 1500 hrs  HONG KONG – Asian men from rich countries such as Japan and South Korea are increasingly seeking  brides from poorer ones like Vietnam and the Philippines — as economically liberated local women get picky. Marriages between Japanese men and foreign women shot up 73 percent between 1995 and 2006, to 35,993, according to the latest government survey. Most of the women were Filipinas, followed by Chinese. “Asian brides — notably Chinese and Filipina — remain popular in the countryside, where it’s quite hard to find young women,” said Toshio Esaka, president of dating agency Royal in Osaka, western Japan. “But nowadays, it’s getting harder even downtown as a lot of young Japanese women are economically independent and prefer to remain single,” Esaka said. In South Korea, more than 35 percent of fishermen and farmers who married in the 12 months to May 2009 took foreign brides, mainly from China and Vietnam, government statistics show. Both examples point to the role of cash and lifestyle in Cupid’s quiver — it is mainly the less marketable men in the richer countries who look abroad for …

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