Ex-wife admitted to affair with co-worker

Number of View: 1499 Ex-wife admitted to affair with co-worker by Chong Shin Yen  Admitted affair The man claimed she admitted to the affair. “I gave her two choices – quit her job and return to my side or divorce. She chose the former, so I forgave her,”he said. Then, in December 2008, the ex-wife filed for divorce. The man said she moved out after that and he had not seen her since. Neither had she returned to visit the children. The New Paper called her mobile phone and asked for her. A woman answered the phone, and asked in …

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Has technology made dating impossible for round two daters?

Number of View: 319 Has technology made dating impossible for round two daters? Sydney Weekend Herald August 27, 2010 Dear CityKat, I’m a recently divorced dude, 34, good shape, etc.  I have started dating a chick in her 20s and am getting heaps of sexts, naked photos of her from email, etc. It’s very different to the ‘dating game’ I left behind when I met my ex-wife back in the late ‘90s. But besides the fact that the ‘tools’ we use to date now (internet, mobiles, facebook, etc) have changed, I want to know; have the women changed too? I …

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Divorced woman suffering from child alienation

Number of View: 397Dear Gilbert,   I thank God that I found  this website and I hope that you  can  help me here. Presently, my ex and I are in the midst of  a divorce and we are  settling our  anxilliary matters and custody of children. I am very concerned  for  my children. I have a  10-year-old old girl and a 14- year- old boy (boy is from my previous marriage. His biological father had passed away) This is the second marriage for both of us.   We are still staying under the same roof for the time being but my ex has …

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Ten Things Women Love About Men

Number of View: 253 By ahostagesituation I love a good man. I have had good men as friends, boyfriends, and I was reared by one. As it turns out, the good women in my life, both married and single, tend to love good men also, and we started discussing some of the things we love about them. The disclaimer here is that some sweeping generalities have to be made for the purpose of prose. Everyone’s different, and this list is not comprehensive. In fun, for the women that love men, we have our reasons, here’s a rough ten. We LOVE: …

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The romance roundabout

Number of View: 536  The romance roundabout By Denise Cullen From: The Sunday Telegraph August 22, 2010 12:12AM ON-again, off-again relationships come with a heavy emotional toll, but there is a way to break the destructive cycle. Boomerang relationships, where a couple breaks up, then makes up, then breaks up again, are very common for both men and women. More than 60 per cent of adults have been on the on-again, off-again relationship roundabout at some point, says University of Texas professor Rene Dailey, who has written about the dynamic in publications including the Journal Of Social Psychology And Personal …

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Let’s talk about SEX really

Number of View: 622 Aug 21, 2010 sex education Let’s talk about SEX really Aishah, 15, has been taught by her teachers how to say no to sex, how to avoid getting into compromising situations with boys, and the dangers of sexually transmitted infections. There is just one problem: She doesn’t know what sex is. She is the product of Singapore’s sexuality education programme which, according to a poll of 300 teenagers by The Straits Times, appears to be falling behind in giving answers to their burning questions. By Tan Hui Yee, Correspondent & Eisen Teo TEEN-YEAR-OLD Aishah sits ramrod …

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Divorced man feeling depressed and suicidal

Number of View: 423 Hi Gilbert, I came across your website and have decided to email. I find it hard reading your articles as it just causes too much pain and I am totally lost about what I can do now and I constantly cry and battle suicidal thoughts. I am from France (location changed) and  was married to my wife for many years. We separated  last year while living in Australia after I met a Chinese  girl in a bar during a transit business trip to Singapore, had an affair with her and confessed it all to my wife.  I …

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Good grief, grieving may not be all bad

Number of View: 283 Aug 17, 2010 Good grief, grieving may not be all bad By Allen Frances A STARTLING suggestion is buried in the fine print describing proposed changes for the fifth edition of the Diagnostic And Statistical Manual Of Mental Disorders – perhaps better known as the DSM-5, the book that will set the new boundary between mental disorder and normality. If this suggestion is adopted, many people who experience completely normal grief could be mislabelled as having a psychiatric problem. Suppose your spouse or child died two weeks ago and now you feel sad, take less interest …

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Survey Request from Final Year Psychology Student

Number of View: 365  From: Renee Yap <yongmei@mediacorp.com.sg> Subject: Hi! This is Renee from FM 972 To: gilbert@steadymarriages.com Received: Thursday, 12 August, 2010, 3:11 PM I’m a DJ from Love 972 and i’m currently in my final year BSc (Honours) Psychology. I’m doing a final project on “Forgiveness in Marriage will affect marital quality”. I got to know your site when i was reading Cleo’s magazine, June issue.  I don’t know if you have ongoing meetings for divorce groups. But I would hope to get divorce men and women who have encountered betrayal by their partners to help me do a …

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Imported brides popular as money mixes Asian marriages

Number of View: 292Imported brides popular as money mixes Asian marriages Posted: 30 June 2010 1500 hrs  HONG KONG – Asian men from rich countries such as Japan and South Korea are increasingly seeking  brides from poorer ones like Vietnam and the Philippines — as economically liberated local women get picky. Marriages between Japanese men and foreign women shot up 73 percent between 1995 and 2006, to 35,993, according to the latest government survey. Most of the women were Filipinas, followed by Chinese. “Asian brides — notably Chinese and Filipina — remain popular in the countryside, where it’s quite hard …

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