1,000 Things You Don’t Know About Women (The Best Article)

Number of View: 6081,000 Things You Don’t Know About Women Posted: 22 Apr 2010 01:03 PM PDT Written by esquire We asked the women in our lives to share their secrets about sex, relationships, and what we’ve been doing wrong (and right) all these years. Check out the first 100 responses below, a bunch more in Esquire’s all-new issue devoted to women, and yet more advice right here every week. No. 306: Don’t pretend we don’t tell you when something’s wrong. Come on now. Increased chocolate intake. Foot tapping. Crossed arms. Tears during a Hallmark commercial. We’ve said all we need to. Tell us we look even skinnier than usual. And then get us a glass of Sancerre. —Kirsten Hall, 35, New York No. 79: We love to hear we are beautiful. Breaking it down into specifics is even better. —Christine Siltanen, 28, Portland, Oregon No. 10: Anything but roses. Think about it. We’ve mentioned our favorite flower more than once. If you can’t remember, go with a lily. —Rhiannon Falzone, 25, Chicago No. 512: We’re not always aware of our breasts. If we happen to brush up against you, we’re not necessarily coming on to you. Sometimes we are. …

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When Sex Leaves the Marriage (well.blogs.nytimes.com)

Number of View: 468 Why do some couples sizzle while others fizzle? Social scientists are studying no-sex marriages for clues about what can go wrong in relationships.   Married men and women, on average, have sex with their spouse 58 times a year, a little more than once a week, according to data collected from the General Social Survey, which has tracked the social behaviors of Americans since 1972. But there are wide variations in that number. Married people under 30 have sex about 111 times a year. And it’s estimated that about 15 percent of married couples have not had sex with their spouse in the last six months to one year, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University, who has studied sexless marriage.   I recently spoke with Professor Donnelly about how much researchers really understand about no-sex marriages. Here’s our conversation.    Is there any indication that the sexless marriage is becoming more common? Or are we just hearing about it more? I suspect that we just hear more about it. Back in the days before reliable birth control, having a sexless marriage was one way of limiting family size. Those …

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Top 6 signs of impending divorce (about.com)

Number of View: 222 By Cathy Meyer, About.com Guide Most couples end up in divorce court because they wait until it is too late to get the help needed to save their marriage. Not dealing with marital problems can mean a build up of resentment; hurt feelings and can cause one spouse to emotionally detach from the other. Below are six signs that you may have waited too long to save your marriage. 1. You Often Dream About a Life Without Your Spouse   Thinking about how much better life would be if you were divorced is common. It happens during times of marital strife to most. What is not normal is if you find yourself fantasizing about divorce often. This is a sign that you are stuck in an unpleasant situation and you are unable to find a solution. It’s a for sure sign that you need to seek marital therapy before it is too late.   2. The Bad in The Marriage Outweighs The Good   If the negative outweighs the good in your marriage, your marriage is in trouble and in need of help. If there is more trouble than paradise, you need to get help in …

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Top 10: First-Impression Tips (askmen.com)

Number of View: 439 Top 10: First-Impression Tips   It’s near impossible to recover from a bad first impression, so put your best foot forward with these tips from MyChanceRomance.com.   By Chris Illuminati, Relationship Correspondent   Guys think they strike out on the first impression because of factors like the way they look or just because the chick wasn’t interested in shooting the bull. In reality, there are several minor details that the average guy fails to pick up on that are ruining his first impression on a woman.   Imagine being able to practice the first impression. Wouldn’t it make approaching and talking to women at bars much easier with the confidence of thousands of first meetings under your belt? You could eliminate all of the odd small talk and uncomfortable pauses in which you’re thinking: ”She didn’t walk away, so what the hell do I say next?”   Consider MyChanceRomance.com, a Chatroulette-inspired dating site, a place to practice that all-important first impression on women from the comfort of your own desk and chair. Site founder Greg Isenberg is an expert in the field of failed first impressions and has seen what works and what doesn’t in terms …

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Divorce – A Lack of Communication (associatedcontent.com)

Number of View: 2069 Divorce is the legal separation of two people who must break their vows because they no longer want the marriage to continue. In the U.S. at the beginning of the 21st century there was about one divorce for every two marriages. The rate of divorce in the U.S. is greater than it is in most other Western countries, though divorce rates climbed in those countries in the last decades of the 20th century (Britannica). This trend is common in our society. In contrast, some believe that divorce is decreasing because of the many resources available today. These resources help make couples’ marriages stronger and help people find mates that match their personality and interests. As technology develops, more resources are available to assist people with relationship troubles. A benefit from the technological world we live in today is the Internet. A reliable source for people seeking a mate would be sites such as E-Harmony which is created by doctors who specialize in the field of human relations.The company was founded by America’s most well known relationship expert, best-selling author and clinical psychologist Dr. Neil Clark Warren (Company Overview). E-Harmony provides a new service called E-Harmony Marriage …

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How to cure your sexless marriage (fixyoursexlessmarriage.com)

Number of View: 537 How to Cure Your Sexless Marriage   According to surveys, more than 18% of married couples are living in sexless marriages. That might look like a small number, but in reality, this translates to over 20 million couples. Look at it that way and you can imagine the magnitude of the problem.    Many people think that there is absolutely no sex in a sexless relationship. But this is a misconception. In reality, sex may not be completely absent. Some therapists even put a minimum number for a marriage to be called sexless, the most common statistic being fewer than 10 times a year. But for some people, even twice a week may seem insufficient. What people want varies from person to person. So, there can be no rules regarding this. If you feel like you’re not getting enough physical intimacy from your spouse, your marriage is sexless.   It is wrong to believe that there is no love between spouses in a sexless relationship. Unless there is an affair involved, this need not be the case. In fact, most people stuck in sexless marriages are deeply involved in the marriage and are reluctant to walk …

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Wives: Sex is very very important to the success of your marriage (ezinearticles.com)

Number of View: 408 http://ezinearticles.com/?Wives—Sex-Is-Very,-Very-Important-to-the-Success-of-Your-Marriage&id=3832186 I believe there is a need to reiterate the need for our women to admit that sex is highly important in marriage and that it is one of the means of keeping their marriages intact. Most men are not cut out for extra-marital affairs in the real sense of it. They are tempted to go into it for lack what they thought they would get freely and in large quantity without restriction by getting married. It is believed that you obtain a license to have unlimited sex once you’re publicly proclaimed married, but the reverse is the case. For example, couples should have sex and romances during holidays and most weekends. This becomes really important where the husband is so keen on sex. What’s then the essence of being together for so long a period as husband and wife duly and legally married? Due to lack of sex(or non at all), men may have cause to consider having an affair when this started (the opportunities are there). At times, husbands often try severally to express this. But their wives failure to change, may bring marriages to a situation where they need counseling to get back …

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Divorce main reason for male suicide? (malevolent)

Number of View: 265 http://misformalevolent.blogspot.com…revisited.html 75% of all suicides being committed by men – over 22,000 men per year. And suicide rates for divorced men are even higher than that – divorced and separated men are TWICE AS LIKELY to commit suicide as other men, per the study “Marital Status and Suicide in the National Longitudinal Mortality Study” by Augustine J. Kposowa, Ph.D., at the University of California at Riverside. CBS News covered the report in some detail here. The study showed that being single versus being married made no difference in suicide rates. – Simply ‘being married’ does not provide singificant mental health benefits relating to suicide.   Even more tellingly, for women marital status, married, single, separated or divorced, made NO STATISTICAL DIFFERENCE in suicide rates. – So somehow, divorce affects men in a much more significant way than women. One wonders what that way could be…   Previous to this study, increased rates of suicide for men had been explained away by claiming that significant mental and physical health benefits were to be had from married life, and by ‘congitive differences’ between men and women – women purportedly spending more time ‘processing’ their problems and thinking more …

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In Memory – Men who took their lives after divorce (Dads In Distress)

Number of View: 237 Andrew T. RenoufAndrew T. Renouf committed suicide on or about October 17, 1995 because he had 100% of his wages taken by the Family Responsibility Office, an agency of the Government of Ontario, Canada. He asked for assistance for food and shelter from the welfare office and was refused because he had a job, even though all of his wages were taken by the Family Responsibility Office.Andy was a loving father that hadn’t seen his daughter in 4 years.             ..Andrew took his own life on 18th November 2005 after attending the Brisbane registry of the family court to file application for contact with his children. He was told that a court date at this stage would take up to 10 months due to the backlog of applications filed in the court. He then wrote letter to registrar to requesting to abridge the waiting time period but was told as there was no real child welfare concerns in regards to his matter this would not be an option. He became visibly upset at this time throwing his paper work in the bin.He rang his sister as he was leaving the courthouse …

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Why Do Men Have Affairs? (The Other Woman)

Number of View: 371    http://the-other-woman-xxx.blogspot.com/2007/08/why-do-men-have-affairs.html Why Do Men Have Affairs? “Because they can. “ “Few men need a reason, most just need an opportunity. “ Or so the myth goes. None of the married men I’ve had affairs with were such passive partners in the transaction, however: some were actively pursuing the possibility, others considering it, and others thought long and hard about it before deciding to go ahead, balancing up the costs and benefits – but all were active partners in deciding and choosing to go ahead. It was a conversation I insisted we have – after they’d done their thinking through. I was not prepared to be blamed, or held responsible for their actions. They were the ones who’d signed the marriage contract in the first place, it had to be their choice to bend it.   That given, the reasons men typically give for embarking on an affair are both personal and structural – the unnatural constraints of monogamy and sexual fidelity which run counter to men’s and women’s instincts; the roles society pressures people into as husbands and wives; the mind-killing strangulation of the nuclear family; the loss of self; the rapidity of ageing once married; …

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