The number one predictor of divorce (Smart Marriages)

Number of View: 309 The number one predictor of divorce is the habitual avoidance of conflict.   What’s sad is the reason that we avoid conflict is because we believe it (conflict) causes divorce.   It’s like the cartoon where the couple explains to the marriage counselor, “We never talk anymore. We figured out that’s when we do all our fighting.”   In the beginning, we avoid conflict because we are in love and we believe that “staying in love” is about agreeing, about NOT fighting.   We’re afraid that if we disagree – or fight – we’ll run our …

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Head Over Heels: The Physical Effects of Falling in Love (Divine Caroline)

Number of View: 341 Head Over Heels: The Physical Effects of Falling in Love By: Allie Firestone (View Profile)   I like to think of myself as a logical, control-my-own destiny kind of girl. I think most of my friends see themselves as equally levelheaded. But recently a friend was describing the physical sensations she gets when she meets someone that she really likes—butterflies, sweaty palms, quick heartbeat. No matter how hard she tries to think her way out of this silliness, she can’t. Since we’ve all been there, I figured there had to be more to it, something powerful enough …

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Negotiating Your Divorce With Good Tactics (divorcesupport.com)

Number of View: 349 Negotiating Your Divorce With Good Tactics Negotiating is a blend of science and style. Many successful attorneys seldom appear to be applying a system of any kind, while others may seem to be following some rigid formula. Attorneys generally use the techniques and approach that they have refined over the years, as they should.   At this point, suggestions on the way your settlement negotiations should be handled should not be necessary. You are comfortable with your attorney. You have no reason to try to direct the negotiations and the trial. Because you have informed and …

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Reader’s Mail: Nine Years of Tough Journey After Divorce

Number of View: 598 Hi Gilbert,   A lot of painful events took place during the last 9 years.  I lost my marriage. I also lost my father to cancer.   I lost my job (I was made redundant and was out of job for about a year).  I was in depression and  literally cut myself off from everybody, including church.  It  took  me 3 years to recover and then I made a very courageous decision to return to my former church.  I reckoned that I should pick up from where I fell although it was a difficult decision.   Then I attended a Diploma …

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Stop Comparing (foodforthought)

Number of View: 292   STOP COMPARING By Bo Sanchez February 18, 2010   We live in a pathologically dissatisfied world. And I’m going to tell you why. Because we love to compare. Go around the world and discover that people aren’t happy with their bodies.   Filipinos want to be fair-complexioned like Westerners, and so buy bleaching stuff. Westerners want to own bronzed bodies like ours, and so purchase tanning lotions.   Those with moles have them removed, while those who don’t strategically implant beauty spots.   Some people want to shed a few pounds to look like Ally …

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Are babies bad for marriage? (Mummy-Muse blog)

Number of View: 347 Have you heard about The Council on Contemporary Families?  If not, you’re missing out on some great information.  This nonprofit, nonpartisan organization of family researchers and practitioners has been working since 1996 to increase our understanding of how America’s families are changing, what contemporary families need and how these needs can best be met at http://www.contemporaryfamilies.org/.               I am impressed with their recent research update, and am including an excerpt from  News You Can Use: Are Babies Bad For Marriage? :      Old News: Having a Baby Will Save Your Marriage New News: No, After Having …

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Reader’s Mail: My Life After Divorce

Number of View: 301 Reader’s Mail: My life after divorce Hi Gilbert,  It has been 6 months since I ended my marriage of 27 years last August 2009.  Life has been wonderful  after I made the decision.  It took me one year of painful deliberation before I made the final decision to leave my husband.  Without financial, emotional and physical support from your spouse and  the burden of 4 children to care for, the strain was not easy to bear.  There were also plenty of tears along the way. I broke down in Dec 2008 when I left home for …

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A Website for The Divorced

Number of View: 355 Dear Friends and Readers,   I have started  this blogsite to support those who are divorced and single parents. I am sure that there are many out there.   Strangely, the site was initially meant for the married people who face struggles in their relationship.   However, a few friends told me that there are already many such sites locally and ask me to instead  start something for those who are divorced and separated.   For those who are recently divorced,  the journey can be  traumatic and lonely. Some may face suicidal tendencies too as it is …

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Looking at Divorce – Through the Eyes of a Child (childrenanddivorce.com)

Number of View: 451        Looking at Divorce – Through the Eyes of a Child First published in Caring – Alliance for Parents and Families 2000         CHILDREN ARE DISILLUSIONED For better or worse children look to adults to help make sense of the world they live in. Unfortunately, from the child’s vantagepoint much of what they are taught defies understanding. It is clear to the youngest children that what adults say is appropriate behavior bears little resemblance to what adults actually do. Children are keen observers. They see famous men who lie and still hold high office, adults …

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