Woman married for 35 years concerned about wayward husband

Number of View: 19 I am Tracy here and feeling very very depressed over my husband’s consistent betrayal. We have been married for almost 35 years and in all these years, its either he is having affairs with divorcees or with married women. He also visited prostitutes in Geylang and do group sex. During the earlier years, he also often indulged in viewing pornography and doing online sex talks with those women over internet. He even got the guts to tell those women that as long the husband returns home, its ok to sleep with any women outside i.e one …

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Mother fears imprisonment due to failure to hand over child to father in a court order

Number of View: 1332 Hi Gilbert, I am writing to you as I had gotten your email from Singapore Support Site for The Divorced. I am not sure if you can help me in my question. I have received a summon to attend Court as I did not allow the Child’s Father to see him. Now the other party wants the Court to imprison me as there was a contempt of the order on my end. The reason I did not follow the order was because I do not feel safe for my boy to be given to him non-supervised …

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Young couple suffers from a sexless marriage and seeking assistance

Number of View: 379 Hi Gilbert I came across your site online while searching for counsellors, and I’m hoping you can help me in some way. I don’t exactly know how this works as I’ve never done this before, but here’s my story in brief. I’m an Indian professional, working and living in Singapore with my Indian husband. He is also working but from home. We both come from well-educated well-to-do families in India, both are 30 years and have been together for the last 7 years – married for last 3. Our story goes smooth – met while in …

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Mum with young child feeling anxious and lost before a impending divorce

Number of View: 779 Hi Gilbert Thank you for your reply. Would it be ok if I asked a few more questions? At this moment, I still feel so lost and quite honestly scared. If I’m not a working mother right now, is there any chance my husband can last minute twist his words and not want to give me custody of my daughter? I seriously doubt he would be agreeable to me not refunding his CPF. How does it work if I do not refund his CPF upon a divorce? Does that mean, the CPF portion will auto be …

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Wife receives SMS text on divorce from husband and seeking assistance

Number of View: 740 My husband send me a SMS stating that he is preparing to file for a divorce with me and will inform me the date to go to the lawyer firm. I am agreeable to the divorce – would I need to engage a lawyer? Gilbert: Yes it will be advisable if you approach a lawyer for legal advice. You can also approach Legal Aid for the poor but your income must be below $1500/month and below. There is a one-off minimal payment of a few hundred if I am not wrong. Getting a lawyer will ensure …

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Woman struggling with a divorce and seeking support group assistance

Number of View: 764 Hi Gilbert I am in the process of going through a divorce. As both my boys are taking the PSLE this year, my soon to be ex-hubby and me are aligned to keep it under wraps and not “announced” till they complete this critical phase of their educational journey. As such we are trying to still act as normal at home, in front of my kids and my parents. Nobody in my family knows at all. Hence it is quite a struggle for me especially when it’s a case of him committing adultery and he has …

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Remarried man seeking assistance on downward variation of $1000 maintenance

Number of View: 860 Dear Mr. Gilbert, Hope that you take your time to understand the situation that I am facing for the past years. Paying a maintenance is part of my responsible but putting it all on me is just not fair. I have another family to support and each time I seek for variation it just does not work as my ex-wife claims that she is not working. She is being unreasonable enough each time we go to court. I am at her mercy Mr. Gilbert, I do not know what to do and it is very stressful …

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Woman caught in a betrayed marriage writing to all third parties

Number of View: 1813 After reading through all the stories here, one thing that strikes me is the large proportion of husbands being unfaithful to the marriage. The story of each betrayed wife maybe different [or similar to a certain extent] but  one thing is for sure – the hurt and pain brought upon the wives and family is immersed in every story. Likewise, I am one of them and I am still in a betrayed marriage [for past one and a half year]. From a very different perspective, I would like to plead to any single [especially woman] who …

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Filipino married to a Singaporean and facing marital strife

Number of View: 1283 Hi Gilbert, A pleasant day to you. I am stuck in a situation right now, suffering depression. I am a Filipina, married to a Singaporean. I am holding a Long Term Visit Pass Plus under my husband’s name. We have two daughters. One was born out of marriage. Our relationship is not usual one. He is my Boss. We got married in 2012. He cheated on me so many times even before and during marriage. Caught him, leave him and forgive him. After two months of marriage, we were expecting for a second child. Still cheating …

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Woman feeling depressed sharing her husband with another woman

Number of View: 1351 Hi, I just learned about my husband affair a year ago. I was devastated as I love him very much and still is. After talking out with him, he hope I could accommodate to him having another love. I was at a loss but finally agreed. From that day onwards, I have been feeling down and cry myself to sleep every now and then. Recently, I just found out that he was overseas with his lover when I confronted him, I did not give him a chance to explain further as I couldn’t bear the thoughts …

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