Newly-married wife stressed over husband’s cancer illness

Number of View: 624 Dear Gilbert My husband and I are turning 30 this year. Unfortunately, we’ve been married only since last July and are already considering divorce. I’m unsure if we’re eligible to file for a divorce but here’s the gist of our story and I seek and would greatly appreciate your invaluable advice. It hasn’t been easy. He was diagnosed with cancer just about 2 weeks into our marriage. Albeit shocking, I willingly accepted our sudden twist of fate and took on the role of his primary caregiver. I ultimately left my job just to care for him …

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Chinese man converted to be Muslim in marriage but wanted to renounce after divorce

Number of View: 194 Dear Gilbert, Good day to you. I’m very depressed.  I’m a Chinese converted to Muslim when I married my wife. We have a daughter and she is now 20 years old. We are still living under same roof but separated room for almost 15 years. Our irretrievable breakdown in our marriage happened when my daughter was born and when we have any argument my wife would flared up and threaten to commit suicide. Usually, it ended up I will put down myself to apologize and pleaded with her which is not my wrong-doing in the first place.  She would just leave the …

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Woman involved in a violent relationship ending her marriage

Number of View: 680 We fought constantly about his filth and untidyness and the division of household chores, among other issues. He had emotionally vacated the marriage and I also discovered he was involved with his colleague, to whom he would confide his woes (including calling me names) and secretly date, plus show care, assistance and concern towards. On one occasion when we were fighting about his cheating, he physically hurt me: flipped me off the bed with such force that I somersaulted and landed oddly on my back on the floor, restrained my hands when I tried to call …

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Husband letting wife go in a painful divorce and moving on

Number of View: 943 Hi Gilbert, Thanks for asking and the concern. Unfortunately, divorce is still on.  I don’t blame my wife as to whether she really did betray me or not (anyway there’s no way to prove or to find out unless I confront that guy. It would be very stupid of me to do so now). I feel that, as a husband, I have to bear the biggest accountability of the failure of my marriage.  So to make her happy and the last good thing I could do now – I have to let her go.  This makes …

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Mother with two kids contemplating divorce in a loveless sexless marriage

Number of View: 1094Dear Gilbert, I came across your website once searching for advice online for divorce procedures. I would like some advice from you on this before I formally engage a lawyer to take up the case. I would like to provide some background on my marriage. I know my husband for about 14 years. We got married  and have 2 girls. We are each other’s first boy/girlfriend, and thus no prior relationship before that. There are naturally a lot of differences in a relationship and I thought it will all worked out eventually as we have stayed on …

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Divorced father facing homelessness and turning suicidal

Number of View: 1127 Dear Sir, I am writing to you as I have no one else to turn to and neither the HDB nor Family Court is willing to hear me out. I’ve been divorced from my estranged wife and I’ve been rendered homeless since as HDB repeatedly refuses to give me a queue number for their BTO projects saying that my son and I do not form a “proper” family nucleus. In the meantime, the courts have awarded 75% of our matrimonial home to my ex-wife even though I’ve produced proof of her adultery as well as custody …

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Man heartbroken by wife who has an affair and wants a divorce

Number of View: 1050 Hi Gilbert, I’m not sure whether this counselling service would be of any difference for the one that I’ve had before and also if I’m ready for that. It’s hard for me to move on as the memories with my wife still linger in my mind. Those happy thoughts makes it harder for me to let it go. I realised that I do need help but I just couldn’t bring myself to accept that everything is over. Just googled through the internet and successfully found out about this support group. I’m really unsure how to begin …

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Woman married for 35 years concerned about wayward husband

Number of View: 1012 I am Tracy here and feeling very very depressed over my husband’s consistent betrayal. We have been married for almost 35 years and in all these years, its either he is having affairs with divorcees or with married women. He also visited prostitutes in Geylang and do group sex. During the earlier years, he also often indulged in viewing pornography and doing online sex talks with those women over internet. He even got the guts to tell those women that as long the husband returns home, its ok to sleep with any women outside i.e one …

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Mother fears imprisonment due to failure to hand over child to father in a court order

Number of View: 1682 Hi Gilbert, I am writing to you as I had gotten your email from Singapore Support Site for The Divorced. I am not sure if you can help me in my question. I have received a summon to attend Court as I did not allow the Child’s Father to see him. Now the other party wants the Court to imprison me as there was a contempt of the order on my end. The reason I did not follow the order was because I do not feel safe for my boy to be given to him non-supervised …

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Young couple suffers from a sexless marriage and seeking assistance

Number of View: 853 Hi Gilbert I came across your site online while searching for counsellors, and I’m hoping you can help me in some way. I don’t exactly know how this works as I’ve never done this before, but here’s my story in brief. I’m an Indian professional, working and living in Singapore with my Indian husband. He is also working but from home. We both come from well-educated well-to-do families in India, both are 30 years and have been together for the last 7 years – married for last 3. Our story goes smooth – met while in …

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